Questionnaire –  Resolving Inner Conflicts

Questionnaire – Resolving Inner Conflicts

QUESTIONS CONCERNING YOUR PRESENT
GOAL OF RESOLVING INNER CONFLICTS
You may want to read or download the text: RECONCILING OUR INNER CONFLICTS from the Life Clarification Capsules, so as to be able to answer these questions more effectively.

1. MY CONFLICTS

I would like to understand and deal with my inner conflict(s) concerning: Select the any of the conflicts below which have concerned you over the years. You can select as many as you like.

1. One part of me feels I need to spend more time on my professional life while another part believes that I should be spending more time with my family.
2. On the one hand, a part of myself wants to open up to a conscious love relationship, while another part fears being abandoned or hurt, suppressed, manipulated, or not being able to say no.
3. My need to follow my inner voice, in some cases, conflicts with my need to be like the others and be accepted by them.
4. My need to express my true feelings sometimes conflicts with my need not to hurt anyone.
5. My need to express my real feelings and thoughts occasionally clashes with my need to have others’ acceptance.
6. One part of myself wants to give those around me (children, spouse, friends) total freedom to pursue their happiness in their own ways, and another part fears losing control.
7. A part of me wants to please others, but their needs come into direct conflict with my own needs.
8. I want to forgive but also need to hold on to negative feelings towards someone.
9. I want to employ various disciplines but another part of me wants to feel free to do what I want when I want to.
10. I want others to support me, but on the other, I feel that they restrict me with their support or advice.
11. One part of me wants spiritual growth, while another feels the need for material security.
12. I want to help a loved one or friend, but on the other, I feel that perhaps I am doing them harm by bailing them out continuously and not letting them solve their own problems.
13. I feel a need to protect the planet through a simple life with very little consumption of energy and products, while another part of me wants to enjoy all the comforts of an energy consuming, pollution producing life style.
14. I want to take a job, or leave a job that I have, while another part of me wants the opposite for different reasons.
15. One part of me believes in cooperating with others, while another finds it difficult.
16. I desire various objects or situations as a source of pleasure. Another part of me, however, feels that this is:

a. a sin,
b. or that I am not spiritual if I partake in such pleasures.
c. a waste of time and energy considering my spiritual goals.
Thus these two aspects of my own being conflict.

17. One part of myself feels the need to have an exclusive relationship, in which my happiness and security depend on a member of the opposite sex. Another part of myself finds this an obstacle towards my need for independence, self dependence, and freedom.
18. I need to control persons and situations in order to feel secure and yet would like to let things flow and allow others to act freely.
19. My need to never show weakness comes into conflict with my need to share my weaknesses, needs and fears with someone.
20. One part me does not want not to ask anything from anyone while another needs their help and support.
21. A part of me needs a stable routine for my balance, health and growth while another enjoys variety and change.
22. A part of me wants to play my familiar emotional relationship games while another part wants to get free from them.
23. One part of me wants to face and overcome my fears and blockages while another prefers to avoid them and hide from them.

OTHERS, LIST HERE

2. CHOOSING A CONFLICT

Which conflict would you like to work with first.
(Suggestion: Choose one which is bothering you most at this time of your life. I would like to start out with the conflict concerning:

3. NAMING THE PARTS

Now you will have to decide on a name for each part of yourself which is in conflict. The names should represent each separate aspect and also be like a nickname which would allow you to express love and acceptance to both parts of your self. (ex. Mr. Discipline and Mr. Rebel. or the Lover and the Loner, or The Parent and the Professional.)

What will you call these two aspects of your being?
A.
B.

4. THE ANALYSIS

Now, separately, for each conflicting part of yourself, answer the following questions.

PART A

A1. It has the following needs: (click for a list of possible needs to choose from)

A2. When its needs are not fulfilled, it has the following emotions: (click for a list of possible emotions to choose from):

A3. It has the following beliefs which cause it to have those needs and emotions. (Click for a list of possible beliefs to choose from). If you cannot determine the beliefs, send this in without answering this question and we will help you in the process.

PART B:

B1. It has the following needs: (click for a list of possible needs to choose from)

B2. When its needs are not fulfilled, it has the following emotion: (click for a list of possible emotions to choose from):

B3. It has the following beliefs which cause it to have those needs and emotions. (Click for a list of possible beliefs to choose from). If you cannot determine the beliefs, send this in without answering this question and we will help you in the process.

5. I personally feel towards the part of me labeled “A” the following feelings:

6. I personally feel towards the part of me labeled “B” the following feelings:

Questionnaire – Making Decisions

Questionnaire – Making Decisions

QUESTIONS CONCERNING YOUR PRESENT
GOAL OF MAKING DECISIONS
1. THE ISSUE

The decision I would like to make concerns the following issue:

2. MY OPTIONS

As far as I can see me options are:

Option A:

A1: The positive aspects of this option are:

A2: The negative aspects of this option are:

A3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option B:

B1: The positive aspects of this option are:

B2: The negative aspects of this option are:

B3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option C:

C1: The positive aspects of this option are:

C2: The negative aspects of this option are:

C3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option D:

D1:The positive aspects of this option are:

D2: The negative aspects of this option are:

D3: feel the following emotions about this option:

Option E:

E1: The positive aspects of this option are:

E2: The negative aspects of this option are:

E3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Questionnaire – About Solving Problems

Questionnaire – About Solving Problems

QUESTIONS CONCERNING YOUR PRESENT GOAL OF SOLVING PROBLEMS OR CREATING SOMETHING
1. THE ISSUE

The problem I want to solve or what I want to create is:

2. MY NEEDS

My needs and motivation here are the following. I want to solve this problem or create the above mentioned because:

3. I AM LIMITED BY THE FOLLOWING EXTERNAL FACTORS

4. I AM LIMITED BY THE FOLLOWING INNER BLOCKAGES

5. MY TIME LIMIT FOR SOLVING THIS PROBLEM IS

6. THE OPTIONS WHICH I HAVE THOUGH OF UNTIL NOW ARE

Option A

A1:The positive aspects of this option are:

A2: The negative aspects of this option are:

A3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option B

B1:The positive aspects of this option are:

B2: The negative aspects of this option are:

B3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option C

C1:The positive aspects of this option are:

C2: The negative aspects of this option are:

C3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option D

D1:The positive aspects of this option are:

D2: The negative aspects of this option are:

D3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option E

E1:The positive aspects of this option are:

E2: The negative aspects of this option are:

E3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

You can download a small ebook with many relaxation proceedures

at https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/life-coach-8-guided-relaxation-procedures

With the following content.

  1. An Introduction To Relaxation Techniques
  2. Positive Visualization Technique for Self Therapy and Prevention of Illness
  3. Techniques for Re-balancing Our Energy
  4.  A Deep Relaxation for Self Acceptance
  5.  A Deep Relaxation Technique for Transforming Childhood Experiences
  6.  Loving The Child That You Were
  7.  Letting Go Of Resentment
  8.  Entertaining The Opposite Emotion
  9.  Letting An Emotion Take A Form And Transforming It
  10.  Letting Our Pains, Illnesses Or Problems Take A Form
  11.  Recognizing And Manifesting Talents, Abilities And Qualities
  12.  A Visit To The Sun
  13.  Music Relaxation
  14.  Color Relaxation
  15.  Becoming The Light – Contact With God
  16.  Circle Of Love
  17.  Disidentifying With Our Bodies And Identifying With Our Souls
  18.  A  Meeting With Your Spiritual Guide
  19.  Finding Out Our Purpose In Life
  20.  Harmonizing The Energy  Centers & Other Possibilities

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Also you can order CDs with guided relaxation techniques at

https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/category/en_store_audio_cd_other

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And you can download various guided relaxation proceedures from

https://www.armonikizoi.com/downloads?category=4

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Such inner relaxation techniques must never be performed when you are driving or operating any machinery. You should be alone in a secure and safe place where you can let go and have no responsibilities to attend to for at least 15 minutes after completing the relaxation. Unless you are already familiar with are practicing such, do not exceed 20 minutes. If you have any difficulties, discontinue temporarily and until you receive guidance from a guide experienced in such techniques, or if you are a member, send us an email (Please include your user name and password).

LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

Feelings of resentment, which sometimes lead to disillusionment, anger and even hate, have a very powerful affect on our nervous and endocrine system, and eventually on our immune system. When such feelings also lead to feelings of weakness, helplessness and hopelessness, then our defense system is more seriously weakened. It has been shown in many scientific studies that the defense system is frequently weakened after the unexpected loss of something very important to us, such as a loved one, a job, a home, our social status or anything else which is very important to us and whose loss we cannot accept. In a number of these cases cancer or some other result of immune weakness is developed.

It is also believed that resentment when long standing in a body can be transferred into physical terms as arthritic or rheumatic problems. This transferal of specific emotions into physical phenomena is an extremely interesting field which will gain much more attention in coming years as science will be forced to investigate it. Until now it is known and accepted mostly to those who work on the spiritual level.

The following visualizations can help us to release such negative emotions which are without doubt affecting in some way our state of health and our harmony with our selves and others. We would all do well to get free from such emotions, for in the last analysis, why should we continue to harm ourselves, because someone performed some injustice to us in the past. When we hold on to resentment or anger or hate towards that person, we only harm ourselves more. Those feelings exist in our body; they affect our liver, our kidneys, our heart, our blood vessels, not the other’s. They inhibit our feelings of happiness, not his. They limit our reality, not his. We are only harming ourselves with these feelings. When we are hurt by some event of life, such as the loss of a loved one or something else very important to us, what do we gain by holding on to the past, but concentrating with bitterness on the injustice of life? Does life suffer or do we suffer?

We cannot change those events of the past. But we can change our attitude towards them. If there is something which we can do in the present to better the quality of our lives, let us do it. But let us let go of the negative feelings which are created by our insistence that life be the way we want it to be. Let us let go of the idea that if things are not the way we have been programmed to believe that they must be, then we cannot be happy. We can be happy if we want to. It is up to us and this technique will help us. As Ken Keyes says, “When you worry about what you do not have, you loose what you do have”. Let us start to look at what we do have, I am sure we will see that it is quite wonderful, if we can let go of the past and see the present as it really is. This is an essential part of our self therapy and self-transformation process.

a. After creating a state of deep relaxation, bring to your mind one by one the various negative feelings which you have been having about specific events or problems in your life. If you are holding negative feelings towards anyone, then bring that person to your mind and experience those feelings. Imagine your self expressing to the other how you are feeling. Explain to him or her why you are feeling that way, how you have been hurt, disappointed. Explain how you didn’t expect what happened, and how you would really have liked things to have happened differently. Express your self in your mind as clearly as you can, not only your anger, but also your feelings of hurt and vulnerability.

b. Once you have mentally expressed your feelings, then realize that these persons have acted out of weakness, out of fear and ignorance. There is no reason to condemn them. They have made a mistake. We too make mistakes. FORGIVE them and let go of your negative feelings. Forgive them and create if possible positive feelings towards them. Realize that they, like you, are in a process of evolution. They cannot be perfect. They will make mistakes.

c. Realize that you too are a soul in the process of evolution and that in truth, nothing can really harm you. You are indestructible and self-sufficient. Feel strong, big, safe and secure and forgive the other, realizing that your happiness and security cannot really depend on someone else.

d. Realize too that there is a universal law of cause and effect and that nothing could ever happen to you if you did not deserve it, if it was not useful for your evolutionary process. Thus realizing that, in fact, no one has ever done you an injustice. For some reason, it had to happen in that way regardless if you are able to understand why. That does not mean that we let people do what they want. We express to them our displeasure or in some cases we protect ourselves, even through court cases, but we let go of negative feelings. We can correct the other’s actions and protect ourselves from them without having negative feelings towards them; negative feelings which harm us more than them.

e. Thus while we are in the relaxation, we can imagine ourselves forgiving the other and accepting him. We can imagine that we are at good terms with each other. If you feel ready, you can even imagine that you are embracing, making up and experiencing love and harmony between you. If this is difficult, you can at least wish them to be healthy and happy in their lives. Do this for all the people in your family (independent as to whether you feel that you have serious problems with them). Do this with relatives, especially with parents and with coworkers or anyone else who has been close to you and has had the opportunity to hurt you, or disappoint you.

f. In this way, forgive each important person in your life for everything. Work on each person and each event separately and specifically. When you have difficulty forgiving a specific person, work on him or her in your relaxation on a daily basis until you overcome your inner resistance. This will do wonders for your own health and vitality. If your resentment is towards life or towards God, then do the same technique imagining life or God in some way and working in the same way. If you are feeling weak and helpless in a difficult world as a result of these difficulties which you have passed through, work on the technique for SELF CONFIDENCE or the technique of CONTACT WITH GOD. Doing this daily will free us from negative emotions concerning ourselves and others. If these emotions are intense, it would be better to seek out professional help in this process.

01 AN INTRODUCTION TO RELAXATION TECHNIQUES

01 AN INTRODUCTION TO RELAXATION TECHNIQUES

You can download a small ebook with many relaxation proceedures

at https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/life-coach-8-guided-relaxation-procedures

With the following content.

  1. An Introduction To Relaxation Techniques
  2. Positive Visualization Technique for Self Therapy and Prevention of Illness
  3. Techniques for Re-balancing Our Energy
  4.  A Deep Relaxation for Self Acceptance
  5.  A Deep Relaxation Technique for Transforming Childhood Experiences
  6.  Loving The Child That You Were
  7.  Letting Go Of Resentment
  8.  Entertaining The Opposite Emotion
  9.  Letting An Emotion Take A Form And Transforming It
  10.  Letting Our Pains, Illnesses Or Problems Take A Form
  11.  Recognizing And Manifesting Talents, Abilities And Qualities
  12.  A Visit To The Sun
  13.  Music Relaxation
  14.  Color Relaxation
  15.  Becoming The Light – Contact With God
  16.  Circle Of Love
  17.  Disidentifying With Our Bodies And Identifying With Our Souls
  18.  A  Meeting With Your Spiritual Guide
  19.  Finding Out Our Purpose In Life
  20.  Harmonizing The Energy  Centers & Other Possibilities

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Also you can order CDs with guided relaxation techniques at

https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/category/en_store_audio_cd_other

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And you can download various guided relaxation proceedures from

https://www.armonikizoi.com/downloads?category=4

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An introduction to Relaxation Techniques

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Of all the techniques that I have suggested that people use over the years for self-therapy, deep relaxation with positive imagery is the one, which I have suggested most often. It is what absolutely everyone needs independent of whether they have physical of emotional problems or not. We all have much to benefit by stopping at least once a day and lying down on our backs (or on our abdomen or sitting straight in a chair) and relaxing consciously all the parts of our body and then our minds. This simple technique allows the basic healing energies of the body to work at restoring the proper harmony which is required for healthy and effective functioning of the body and mind.

The blood vessels relax and there is increased blood flow to parts of the body where tension was restricting flow. The lactic acid build up which causes tiredness, is allowed to be transformed and removed. All the systems of the body begin a process of harmonizing themselves through various mechanisms. The nervous system is relaxed and rejuvenated and prepared for more efficient functioning. The mind is cleared, emptied and enabled to think much more clearly, intelligently and positively. In deep relaxation, as you will learn in detail below, we are able to direct our body’s healing energies mentally to the areas which we would like to affect more specifically. Thus if we are having a problem with our liver, we can send healing energy there by imagining light, or peace, or positive healthful feelings and thoughts flowing into the liver. This can be done with any part of the body. The same technique of positive thinking can be used with all aspects of our lives.

We can imagine ourselves with greater self acceptance, self confidence, self love, with greater peace of mind, greater ease and confidence in our social and professional contacts. We can imaging ourselves in harmonious and loving relationships. We can imagine ourselves healthy, full of energy and happiness. This is not self deception. It is the directing of the mind’s energies towards the eventual creation of exactly these positive realities.

Our thoughts, feelings and beliefs are the creators of our lives, of our illness and our health, of our failures and successes, of our happiness and unhappiness. Changing our thoughts eventually leads to changes in our lives, including in our health.

Below you will find a variety of various relaxation techniques which you can employ in order to restore or maintain your health and harmony. You can then decide which of the techniques seem to appeal most to you.


If you should like to create a deep relaxation technique for your self you should include:

1. The method of relaxing which helps you to relax most easily.


2. Projection of healing energy to parts of the body which you would like to heal.


3. Projection of positive thoughts and images concerning your personality and your contact with the world around you. Imagine yourself as you would like to be.


4. Be sure to always create feelings of self acceptance, self love and self confidence. These are very important in self healing.


5. Leave time for your mind to just be empty and let whatever changes need to take place in your body or mind to happen without your mental intervention. This time of emptiness is essential both in self healing and also in our spiritual growth process.

In employing your relaxation pay attention to the following:

1. You should be appropriately covered in case your body metabolism falls and you feel cold.


2. It is best to be alone in the room unless the other is sleeping, or aware of what you are doing and capable of being extremely quiet. But if these conditions are not available, then I would say to go ahead and try to do deep relaxation anyway. You would be amazed by how much you can go within yourself and become unaware of what is going on around you.


3. Leave time to really «wake up»; and gradually move into activity. Do not come out of the relaxation just moments before you have to do something or be somewhere. Five minutes transition time is probably enough for most people.


4. If you suffer from low blood pressure and find that you are dizzy or very cold after deep relaxation, then try doing your relaxation with your legs on a pillow or on the wall. In these positions you will ensure an abundant flow of blood to the brain and you will not feel dizzy or weak afterwards.


5. Do not over do relaxation. Twenty to thirty minutes twice or three times a day are enough in the beginning. Do not do more than this without the guidance of someone experienced in these techniques. Yoga teachers can help you and a growing number of psychologists are learning and using such techniques with their patients.

6. The techniques are best done on an empty stomach but can be done after meals if there is absolutely no other time. The best time to do them is after one of your exercise and breathing sessions. Another suitable time is in the afternoon or early evening, especially after work in order to rejuvenate your body for the evening activities. If none of these times are suitable, then at least do it before falling asleep in the evening. Some people who have trouble sleeping use it in the middle of the night in order to sleep, and others who wake up early use these techniques to start their days with a fresh and positive outlook. Experiment and find out what is best for you.


7. The purpose is not to fall asleep. But if you are tired and fall asleep do not worry. You have relaxed. If you have relaxed with a cassette, the messages which were on the cassette have been recorded by your subconscious mind. If you were working on your own without a cassette, then at least you have relaxed and rejuvenated your body and mind.


8. CDs are available

from various spiritual centers, book stores and health food shops. In the beginning I would suggest that you buy or borrow a cassette so that you can get an idea concerning the rate and rhythm of how a relaxation is done. It will be easier to relax with a cassette in the beginning until you develop your ability with practice. Eventually you can let go of your dependency on the cassette (after trying out a variety of them if you like) and work on your own, creating the type of relaxation which is most suitable to you.

There are CD for self therapy, for self acceptance, self confidence, for expansion of love for all beings, for sending light to various parts of the body and for simply relaxing. There are also relaxations for children which help them to imagine themselves confident, concentrated and successful at school and with friends and family. You may also like to create your own cassette with the specific messages which you feel are most appropriate to your needs.


9. It is important to be regular in your practice of this simple technique which really does not require much time. If you cannot do it more frequently, do it at least once a day. Do not let your mind fool you into believing that there is no time. There is; you just need to see it. You can let go of something else, which is offering you less in your life and replace it with relaxation.

Also do not be fooled by the idea that you do not have the right to take this time for your self. These techniques will increase greatly both the quality and quantity of your service both to your family and profession. Also do not be fooled by the feeling that you are too nervous to relax, that you prefer to watch TV or do something which occupies your attention; that you do not have the concentration to relax. It is all a matter of habit. Your mind has learned to function in a certain way. You can gradually teach it to function in a different more effective and beneficial way.

It may be difficult at first. You may feel even more tension as you try and do not succeed in relaxing. This is because it is something new. Just as you could not walk when you were born and had to practice it, and became now able to walk through thinking, in the same way you will master this technique and it will become easy and enjoyable.


10. Do not be put off or afraid if in the beginning you have various negative side effects after doing a relaxation. This is simply the excess suppressed tension (which you have bottled up within you), coming out in the form of negative symptoms. The symptoms may be headaches, dizziness, a feeling of irritability or the need to cry or laugh nervously. You may feel pains in various parts of the body which were not there before (they are in the emotional and energy level but you do not feel them). You may have negative visions or hear unpleasant sounds while in the relaxation.

Or you may feel nothing at all. In 80% of the cases, people feel very wonderful. They experience a level of inner peace and harmony which they have never experienced before. If you are among the 20% who might have negative reactions at first, do not fear; this will happen only for a few times in the beginning and then will pass. If you feel that you need help to overcome the built up tension which is coming out, then seek out the help of a person experienced in these techniques. Sooner or later the tension which you have suppressed for so many years will be released and you will feel wonderful, not only in your relaxation but throughout the day. You will be lighter and freer, with more positive outlook in life.


11. The process of reprogramming the subconscious mind with positive thoughts and images can also be done while you are sleeping. You can purchase or make a cassette with the messages you would like to accept deep within you. Set up a timer switch to your tape player so that it will start up by itself about an hour after you have fallen asleep or an hour before you usually wake up. At these times you are usually in the receptive «alpha» state. These messages will by pass the filters of your conscious mind which usually block out whatever they do not believe and will be recorded directly into your subconscious mind. Many learn languages in this way. This does not, however, replace your need for conscious-willful deep relaxation.

I encourage you to start today employing these relaxation techniques and to treat your body and mind to a delight they have been waiting for and needing for a long time.

02 Self Healing

02 Self Healing

You can download a small ebook with many relaxation proceedures

at https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/life-coach-8-guided-relaxation-procedures

With the following content.

  1. An Introduction To Relaxation Techniques
  2. Positive Visualization Technique for Self Therapy and Prevention of Illness
  3. Techniques for Re-balancing Our Energy
  4.  A Deep Relaxation for Self Acceptance
  5.  A Deep Relaxation Technique for Transforming Childhood Experiences
  6.  Loving The Child That You Were
  7.  Letting Go Of Resentment
  8.  Entertaining The Opposite Emotion
  9.  Letting An Emotion Take A Form And Transforming It
  10.  Letting Our Pains, Illnesses Or Problems Take A Form
  11.  Recognizing And Manifesting Talents, Abilities And Qualities
  12.  A Visit To The Sun
  13.  Music Relaxation
  14.  Color Relaxation
  15.  Becoming The Light – Contact With God
  16.  Circle Of Love
  17.  Disidentifying With Our Bodies And Identifying With Our Souls
  18.  A  Meeting With Your Spiritual Guide
  19.  Finding Out Our Purpose In Life
  20.  Harmonizing The Energy  Centers & Other Possibilities

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Also you can order CDs with guided relaxation techniques at

https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/category/en_store_audio_cd_other

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And you can download various guided relaxation proceedures from

https://www.armonikizoi.com/downloads?category=4

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2. POSITIVE VISUALIZATION TECHNIQUE FOR SELF THERAPY AND PREVENTION OF ILLNESS

Being ill is no fun. Often when ill we do not know what to do with ourselves and are overcome with negative feelings. These negative feelings of helplessness and hopelessness often worsen our physical condition and there ensues a vicious circle of physical pain, suffering and mental and emotional tension. Our negative reaction to illness worsen the illness. Tension brings pain and pain brings more tension. The best solution is any simple relaxation technique with positive visualization for removing stress and pain and sending healing energy to the problem area.

Each of us has within us vital energies which can heal our bodies. This is the life energy which keeps us alive and allows us to perform all the functions of our lives. This energy is guided by our thought patterns and concentration. Wherever our thoughts go, our energy goes to that area. Thus we can play a very important and essential role in our own therapy by learning to relax our bodies and mind by directing our concentration inwardly to the various parts of our body or our life in general which need healing. This is not difficult at all and can be learned just as any other human act can be learned through practice.


THE DOCTORS COULD NOT BELIEVE THEIR EYES

 

 

I remember the case of a friend of ours who was flying in a hand glider-kite and fell 20 meters to the ground cracking cervical vertebrae, thus remaining paralysed in the General National Hospital in Athens, Greece. He had only 5% movement in his arms and zero in his legs. A few of us went to explain to him how to relax his mind and body and how to concentrate his energy into his neck area and into his arms and legs and to imagine that he could move his hands and legs perfectly. He started doing this four or five times a day. He would ask his visitors to leave the room for ten minutes so that he could do this. He did this in a room with seven other patients and all their visitors. He closed his eyes and relaxed, while the television was blaring and cigarette smoke was choking the atmosphere.

Although the doctors told him that he would never be able to walk or gain full use of his hands, he started to get better every day. His hands and legs started to move. After two months, he left the hospital, and after another six months he came to visit me one day in the taxi cab he was driving, to tell me how the doctors at the hospital “made the sign of the cross”, in disbelief, when they saw him walk in to greet them. His body was much more fit and strong than mine.

There are thousands of such cases all over the world of people who have cured themselves with the power of relaxation and positive visualization. It is being used in many hospitals in America and Europe. It is being used especially in the cases of Cancer and whenever pain is present. One theory is that relaxation and peaceful vibrations in the mind stimulate the secretion of «natural body made anaesthetics» called endomorphins. It seems that an individual can learn to control the pain in his body. In addition he can direct healing energies to those parts of the body which are malfunctioning. Everyday we are discovering new unknown powers of the mind. It seems that we human beings have many powers which we have not realised and are waiting for us to uncover them as we continue with our human development.

A SELF HEALING VISUALIZATION TECHNIQUE

Find a comfortable straight back position, either lying down on your back or sitting straight on a chair. Close your eyes and start breathing more slowly and deeply. Relax your body from your toes to the top of your head concentrating on each part separately and allowing it to relax.

You may also use another method of relaxation similar to the one suggested by the Silva Mind Control. Take a deep breath and while exhaling repeat mentally and visualize the number three, three times in your mind. Then inhale again, and while exhaling, visualize and repeat the number two, three times in the mind. Then inhale again and on the exhalation repeat and visualise the number one, three times. Then count slowly backwards from ten to one allowing the body and mind to relax more deeply with each number. Feel that with each number you relax more deeply physically and mentally.

After using either of these techniques or any other relaxation technique, you can start to follow the following visualization procedure.


1)  Imagine a light in the center of the forehead


2)  Allow this light to begin to expand and fill the whole of the brain cavity. (If you cannot see the light you can feel it, or conceive of it as a thought. It has the same result).


3)  Allow this light and energy to start descending into the body


4)  Direct it to any parts of the body which need healing energies


5)  Feel the energy going there and imagine that area to be perfectly healthy. DO NOT IMAGINE THE ILLNESS. DO NOT IMAGINE THE PROBLEM.


6)  IMAGINE ONLY THE PERFECT FUNCTIONING OF THE BODY.


7)  Imagine your whole body functioning perfectly


8)  Imagine yourself happy, healthy, running, dancing, singing, playing


9)  Imagine yourself in harmony with those around you, giving and taking love


10) Remain in this blissful relaxed state as long as you can. Allow these peaceful healing energies to permeate every part of your body and mind.

This practice can be done for:


1) SELF HEALING


2) TO HELP OTHERS WHO ARE ILL – We can imagine all this going on in them


3) AS A PREVENTIVE MEASURE AGAINST ILLNESS

LIST OF POSSIBLE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES

LIST OF POSSIBLE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES

LIST OF POSSIBLE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES

 

Following you will find a list of possible childhood experiences. Perhaps they may not have occurred exactly as described here, but may have been similar. You may be reminded of something else you may want to note down.

 

These childhood experiences may have created a mistaken, inferior image of ourselves.

 

Note: (The numbers after each experience refers to the list of beliefs – subconscious conclusions of the child, which may have been programmed into the child’s vulnerable mind because of these experiences).

 

Wherever the questions refer to your parents or other persons of your childhood, think not only of the parents, but also of stepmothers, stepfathers, uncles, aunts, brothers and sisters, cousins, teachers and whatever other people existed in your life as a child and up to the age of 18.

 

YES —- NO —-1. Was it someone who got angry at you, scolded you, rejected you or accused you? Who and when?

 

YES —- NO —- 2. Were there people who fought among themselves or rejected or hurt one another? Who and when?

 

YES —- NO —- 3. Have you ever experienced the feeling of abandonment? Were you ever left alone, or felt that others didn’t understand you, or that there was no support? When? By whom? How?

 

YES —- NO —- 4. Did you ever feel the need for more affection, tenderness or expression of love? From whom and when (during which periods)?

 

YES —- NO —- 5. Were there persons in your environment who were often ill or who spoke often of illness? Who and when?

 

YES —- NO —- 6. Did you ever experience the feeling of humiliation in the presence of others or in connection with others? In which cases?

 

YES —- NO —- 7. Were you ever compared to others as to whether you were less or more capable or worthy? To whom, in which instances, and in connection with what abilities or character traits?

 

YES —- NO —- 8. Have you ever lost a loved one? Who and when?

 

YES —- NO —- 9. Did anyone ever approach you sexually without your consent?

 

YES —- NO —- 10. Were you ever aware of your parents or anyone else making love? Who and when? How did you feel and what did you think?

 

YES —- NO —- 11. Did your parents ever state that you were the only reason they continued staying together and that that had been a big sacrifice on their part? Or, did they ever tell you they have sacrificed a great deal for your sake, and that you are indebted to them? Who? When? About what matters? What exactly do you owe them.

 

YES —- NO —- 12. Did they ever accuse you for being the cause for their unhappiness or illness or problems? Who accused you and about what exactly? What did they mean that it was your fault, what does this fact mean to you? According to them what should you have done?

 

YES —- NO —- 13. Did they ever tell you that you are not going to achieve anything in your life, that you are lazy or incapable, or dumb? Who, when and concerning what matters?

 

YES —- NO —- 14. Were you ever caught playing with your genitals (alone or with others) and did anyone make you feel guilty for that? Who? When? What was their message?

 

YES —- NO —- 15. Did they often speak about guilt and punishment (either from some person (parent, police) or God)? Who? When? About what types of guilt and what type of punishment?

 

YES —- NO —- 16. Did any teacher ever make you feel humiliated in front of other children? When? How? Concerning what?

 

YES —- NO —- 17. In the company of other children, did you ever feel rejection or inferiority? By whom, and inferior by what criteria?

 

YES —- NO —- 18. Were you ever told that you were responsible for your siblings or for others in general, and that whatever happens to them is your responsibility? Who did? About whom? Concerning what matters were you responsible?

 

YES —- NO —- 19. Were you ever made to understand by some way (negative or positive) that, in order for someone to be acceptable and lovable, one must:

 

a. Be better than the others?

 

b. Be first at everything?

 

c. Be perfect, without faults?

 

d. Be intelligent and clever?

 

e. Be handsome / beautiful?

 

f. Have perfect order and cleanliness at home?

 

g. Have great success in his/her love life?

 

h. Have financial and social success?

 

i. Be accepted by everyone — him?

 

j. Be active in many ways? Achieve many things?

 

k. Always satisfy the needs of others?

 

l. Never say “no” to others?

 

m. Not to express his/her needs?

 

YES —- NO —- 20. Did they ever make you understand in some way that you are incapable of thinking, making decisions or achieving things by yourself, and that you will always need to listen to advice and depend on others? Who passed on this message to you? About what matters are you supposedly “incapable” of makind decisions or hundling properly?

 

YES —- NO —- 21. Did you ever have role models (parents, older siblings or others) who were, or still are, very dynamic and competent so that you felt:

 

YES —- NO —- a. The need to be like them?

 

YES —- NO —- b. The need to prove your worth; to be like them, to reach or even surpass these models?

 

YES —- NO —- c. Dispair, self-rejection, abandonment of effort, perhaps self-destructive (possibly subconscious) tendencies because you believed you could never measure up to them?

 

In connection with whom has any of this occured (a,c or c) and with what criteria of success?

 

YES —- NO —- 22. Has there ever been in your environment someone with unexpected, unpredictable, nervous or even schizophrenic behavior (possibly alcoholic or drug addict) so that you might not know what to expect from him? Has there been violence (physical or psychological)? By whom and what was the behavior like?

 

YES —- NO —- 23. Have you felt rejection or shame for one of your parents? For whom and why?

 

YES —- NO —- 24. Did you ever make the discovery that one of your parents has had an extra-marital affair? When and under what circumstances? How did you feel about that?

 

YES —- NO —- 25. Did they speak to you often about God the punisher? Who did, and about what?

 

YES —- NO —- 26. Did you ever feel that they told you one thing but did another, that there was no consistency to their word, that they had a double standard, one for themselves and another for the others, or that they were hypocrites, false and not true? Who and when? Concerning what topics?

 

YES —- NO —- 27. Upon what was your parents’ security based?

 

a) on money?

b) on the opinion of others?

c) on education?

d) on personal power?

e) on the unity of the family?

f) on property?

g) on one’s mate?

h) other?

YES —- NO —- 28. Were you a spoiled child that always had whatever it wanted and to whom no one ever refused a favour?

 

YES —- NO —- 29. Did they suppress your freedom of movement and expression? Did they force you to do things you did not want to do? (study, visits, dress). Did they forbid you to do things you wanted to do? What were you forced to do or prevented from doing?

 

YES —- NO —- 30. (FOR WOMEN ONLY). Did they in some way make you understand that since you are a girl:

 

a. You are worth less?

b. You are not safe without a man?

c. Sex is dirty (a sin)?

d. In order to be socially acceptable you must get married?

e. You are less competent than men?

f. Your only mission is to serve others?

g. You must not express your needs, your feelings, your opinion?

h. You must submit your self to your husband?

i. You must be beautiful to be acceptable?

 

YES —- NO —- 31. (FOR MEN ONLY). Did they in some way make you understand that since you are a boy:

 

a. You must be strong?

b. You must be superior, more competent, stronger and more intelligent than your wife?

c. Your worth is measured according to the success of your love life?

d. Your worth is measured according to your professional (financial) success?

e. You must compare yourself with other men?