Questionnaire – Clarifying Emotions

Questionnaire – Clarifying Emotions

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CLARIFYING EMOTIONS

You have an emotion which is limiting your peace, happiness or love. You want to understand where it is coming from and how to deal with. We methodically ask you the appropriate questions which guide you into a deeper understanding of how that emotion is created and how you might deal with it and free your self from it.

QUESTIONS CONCERNING YOUR PRESENT GOAL OF EMOTIONAL CLARITY
You may want to read or download the text: HOW OUR EMOTIONS ARE CREATED from the Life Clarification Capsules, so as to be able to answer these questions more effectively.

1. MY EMOTIONS

I would like to understand and deal with the following emotions. (You can check them off on the list and add your own.)

FEAR
GUILT
HURT
PAIN
ANGER
ABUSED
WORRY
DISILLUSIONMENT
DISCOURAGEMENT
REJECTION
ANXIETY
DEMEANED
INSECURITY
HATE
DEPRESSION
FRUSTRATION
LONELINESS
BITTERNESS
JEALOUSY
ENVY
UNWORTHY
RAGE
SELF REJECTION
SELF DOUBT
SHAME
INJUSTICE
MISUNDERSTOOD
ABANDONMENT
OTHERS

2. CHOOSING AN EMOTION

Which emotion would you like to work with first? (Suggestion: anger, hate and rage are usually second level emotions, which we feel because we are already feeling fear, pain or guilt. We suggest that you start out with emotions concerning pain or guilt and move on to those which encompass anger. It is, however, your choice).

I would like to start out with the emotion:

3. THE STIMULI:

Make a list of the “stimuli”; moments, events, behaviors and situations where you have felt this chosen emotion in the past. You may find that you have felt differently towards the same event, behavior or situation depending on various factors (ie. the persons, place, your own inner state). We will investigate those factors in the future. For the time being, include in your list all moments in which at least once you have felt the above emotion. You can select from the following list and also add your own:

1. When others do not agree with me.
2. When they do not understand me.
3. When they obstruct me from satisfying my needs.
(A need could be physical, practical, psychological, or even spiritual)
a. For physical needs such as sleep, food, sex, rest
b. Practical and safety needs such as a home, money, professional success
c. For emotional needs such as love, acceptance, approval, self affirmation, attention
d. Mental and spiritual needs such as to study, meditate, worship in my own way
4. When they do not respect me.
5. When they think they are superior.
6. When they try to control me or suppress me.
7. When they criticize me.
8. When they tell lies or gossip about me.
9. When they harm me or someone close to me.
10. When they have evil intentions or ulterior motives.
11. When they are negative, complaining, whining, criticizing etc.
12. When they think they know it all.
13. When they give me advice I have not asked for.
14. When they play the role of the victim, the poor me and want attention.
15. When they do not take care of themselves or do not carry their load.
16. When they make mistakes
17. When they do not keep their word or appointments.
18. When they are weak and dependent
19. When they act in an egotistical and selfish way, disregarding our or others’ needs
20. When they use me or others.
21. When they are cold and insensitive
22. When they are not responsible to their word or responsibilities
23. When they are lazy
24. When they ignore my needs
25. When they reject me.
26. When I make mistakes or do not succeed at some endeavor
27. When I do not live up to my conscience.
28. When I think of the past
29. When I think of the future
My future
My loved ones’ future

Other reasons:

4. My greatest source of tension / emotional disturbance is:

Family
Work
Health
Money
Friends
Love Relationship
A specific event which I am dealing with. Explain in no. 5

5. Other information which you would like to briefly share with us: (We will have an opportunity to go into more detail in future communications)

Questionnaire – Resolving Inner Conflicts

Questionnaire – Resolving Inner Conflicts

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QUESTIONS CONCERNING YOUR PRESENT
GOAL OF RESOLVING INNER CONFLICTS
You may want to read or download the text: RECONCILING OUR INNER CONFLICTS from the Life Clarification Capsules, so as to be able to answer these questions more effectively.

1. MY CONFLICTS

I would like to understand and deal with my inner conflict(s) concerning: Select the any of the conflicts below which have concerned you over the years. You can select as many as you like.

1. One part of me feels I need to spend more time on my professional life while another part believes that I should be spending more time with my family.
2. On the one hand, a part of myself wants to open up to a conscious love relationship, while another part fears being abandoned or hurt, suppressed, manipulated, or not being able to say no.
3. My need to follow my inner voice, in some cases, conflicts with my need to be like the others and be accepted by them.
4. My need to express my true feelings sometimes conflicts with my need not to hurt anyone.
5. My need to express my real feelings and thoughts occasionally clashes with my need to have others’ acceptance.
6. One part of myself wants to give those around me (children, spouse, friends) total freedom to pursue their happiness in their own ways, and another part fears losing control.
7. A part of me wants to please others, but their needs come into direct conflict with my own needs.
8. I want to forgive but also need to hold on to negative feelings towards someone.
9. I want to employ various disciplines but another part of me wants to feel free to do what I want when I want to.
10. I want others to support me, but on the other, I feel that they restrict me with their support or advice.
11. One part of me wants spiritual growth, while another feels the need for material security.
12. I want to help a loved one or friend, but on the other, I feel that perhaps I am doing them harm by bailing them out continuously and not letting them solve their own problems.
13. I feel a need to protect the planet through a simple life with very little consumption of energy and products, while another part of me wants to enjoy all the comforts of an energy consuming, pollution producing life style.
14. I want to take a job, or leave a job that I have, while another part of me wants the opposite for different reasons.
15. One part of me believes in cooperating with others, while another finds it difficult.
16. I desire various objects or situations as a source of pleasure. Another part of me, however, feels that this is:

a. a sin,
b. or that I am not spiritual if I partake in such pleasures.
c. a waste of time and energy considering my spiritual goals.
Thus these two aspects of my own being conflict.

17. One part of myself feels the need to have an exclusive relationship, in which my happiness and security depend on a member of the opposite sex. Another part of myself finds this an obstacle towards my need for independence, self dependence, and freedom.
18. I need to control persons and situations in order to feel secure and yet would like to let things flow and allow others to act freely.
19. My need to never show weakness comes into conflict with my need to share my weaknesses, needs and fears with someone.
20. One part me does not want not to ask anything from anyone while another needs their help and support.
21. A part of me needs a stable routine for my balance, health and growth while another enjoys variety and change.
22. A part of me wants to play my familiar emotional relationship games while another part wants to get free from them.
23. One part of me wants to face and overcome my fears and blockages while another prefers to avoid them and hide from them.

OTHERS, LIST HERE

2. CHOOSING A CONFLICT

Which conflict would you like to work with first.
(Suggestion: Choose one which is bothering you most at this time of your life. I would like to start out with the conflict concerning:

3. NAMING THE PARTS

Now you will have to decide on a name for each part of yourself which is in conflict. The names should represent each separate aspect and also be like a nickname which would allow you to express love and acceptance to both parts of your self. (ex. Mr. Discipline and Mr. Rebel. or the Lover and the Loner, or The Parent and the Professional.)

What will you call these two aspects of your being?
A.
B.

4. THE ANALYSIS

Now, separately, for each conflicting part of yourself, answer the following questions.

PART A

A1. It has the following needs: (click for a list of possible needs to choose from)

A2. When its needs are not fulfilled, it has the following emotions: (click for a list of possible emotions to choose from):

A3. It has the following beliefs which cause it to have those needs and emotions. (Click for a list of possible beliefs to choose from). If you cannot determine the beliefs, send this in without answering this question and we will help you in the process.

PART B:

B1. It has the following needs: (click for a list of possible needs to choose from)

B2. When its needs are not fulfilled, it has the following emotion: (click for a list of possible emotions to choose from):

B3. It has the following beliefs which cause it to have those needs and emotions. (Click for a list of possible beliefs to choose from). If you cannot determine the beliefs, send this in without answering this question and we will help you in the process.

5. I personally feel towards the part of me labeled “A” the following feelings:

6. I personally feel towards the part of me labeled “B” the following feelings:

Questionnaire – Making Decisions

Questionnaire – Making Decisions

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QUESTIONS CONCERNING YOUR PRESENT
GOAL OF MAKING DECISIONS
1. THE ISSUE

The decision I would like to make concerns the following issue:

2. MY OPTIONS

As far as I can see me options are:

Option A:

A1: The positive aspects of this option are:

A2: The negative aspects of this option are:

A3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option B:

B1: The positive aspects of this option are:

B2: The negative aspects of this option are:

B3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option C:

C1: The positive aspects of this option are:

C2: The negative aspects of this option are:

C3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option D:

D1:The positive aspects of this option are:

D2: The negative aspects of this option are:

D3: feel the following emotions about this option:

Option E:

E1: The positive aspects of this option are:

E2: The negative aspects of this option are:

E3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Questionnaire – About Solving Problems

Questionnaire – About Solving Problems

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QUESTIONS CONCERNING YOUR PRESENT GOAL OF SOLVING PROBLEMS OR CREATING SOMETHING
1. THE ISSUE

The problem I want to solve or what I want to create is:

2. MY NEEDS

My needs and motivation here are the following. I want to solve this problem or create the above mentioned because:

3. I AM LIMITED BY THE FOLLOWING EXTERNAL FACTORS

4. I AM LIMITED BY THE FOLLOWING INNER BLOCKAGES

5. MY TIME LIMIT FOR SOLVING THIS PROBLEM IS

6. THE OPTIONS WHICH I HAVE THOUGH OF UNTIL NOW ARE

Option A

A1:The positive aspects of this option are:

A2: The negative aspects of this option are:

A3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option B

B1:The positive aspects of this option are:

B2: The negative aspects of this option are:

B3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option C

C1:The positive aspects of this option are:

C2: The negative aspects of this option are:

C3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option D

D1:The positive aspects of this option are:

D2: The negative aspects of this option are:

D3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

Option E

E1:The positive aspects of this option are:

E2: The negative aspects of this option are:

E3: I feel the following emotions about this option:

LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

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You can download a small ebook with many relaxation proceedures

at https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/life-coach-8-guided-relaxation-procedures

With the following content.

  1. An Introduction To Relaxation Techniques
  2. Positive Visualization Technique for Self Therapy and Prevention of Illness
  3. Techniques for Re-balancing Our Energy
  4.  A Deep Relaxation for Self Acceptance
  5.  A Deep Relaxation Technique for Transforming Childhood Experiences
  6.  Loving The Child That You Were
  7.  Letting Go Of Resentment
  8.  Entertaining The Opposite Emotion
  9.  Letting An Emotion Take A Form And Transforming It
  10.  Letting Our Pains, Illnesses Or Problems Take A Form
  11.  Recognizing And Manifesting Talents, Abilities And Qualities
  12.  A Visit To The Sun
  13.  Music Relaxation
  14.  Color Relaxation
  15.  Becoming The Light – Contact With God
  16.  Circle Of Love
  17.  Disidentifying With Our Bodies And Identifying With Our Souls
  18.  A  Meeting With Your Spiritual Guide
  19.  Finding Out Our Purpose In Life
  20.  Harmonizing The Energy  Centers & Other Possibilities

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Also you can order CDs with guided relaxation techniques at

https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/category/en_store_audio_cd_other

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And you can download various guided relaxation proceedures from

https://www.armonikizoi.com/downloads?category=4

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Such inner relaxation techniques must never be performed when you are driving or operating any machinery. You should be alone in a secure and safe place where you can let go and have no responsibilities to attend to for at least 15 minutes after completing the relaxation. Unless you are already familiar with are practicing such, do not exceed 20 minutes. If you have any difficulties, discontinue temporarily and until you receive guidance from a guide experienced in such techniques, or if you are a member, send us an email (Please include your user name and password).

LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

Feelings of resentment, which sometimes lead to disillusionment, anger and even hate, have a very powerful affect on our nervous and endocrine system, and eventually on our immune system. When such feelings also lead to feelings of weakness, helplessness and hopelessness, then our defense system is more seriously weakened. It has been shown in many scientific studies that the defense system is frequently weakened after the unexpected loss of something very important to us, such as a loved one, a job, a home, our social status or anything else which is very important to us and whose loss we cannot accept. In a number of these cases cancer or some other result of immune weakness is developed.

It is also believed that resentment when long standing in a body can be transferred into physical terms as arthritic or rheumatic problems. This transferal of specific emotions into physical phenomena is an extremely interesting field which will gain much more attention in coming years as science will be forced to investigate it. Until now it is known and accepted mostly to those who work on the spiritual level.

The following visualizations can help us to release such negative emotions which are without doubt affecting in some way our state of health and our harmony with our selves and others. We would all do well to get free from such emotions, for in the last analysis, why should we continue to harm ourselves, because someone performed some injustice to us in the past. When we hold on to resentment or anger or hate towards that person, we only harm ourselves more. Those feelings exist in our body; they affect our liver, our kidneys, our heart, our blood vessels, not the other’s. They inhibit our feelings of happiness, not his. They limit our reality, not his. We are only harming ourselves with these feelings. When we are hurt by some event of life, such as the loss of a loved one or something else very important to us, what do we gain by holding on to the past, but concentrating with bitterness on the injustice of life? Does life suffer or do we suffer?

We cannot change those events of the past. But we can change our attitude towards them. If there is something which we can do in the present to better the quality of our lives, let us do it. But let us let go of the negative feelings which are created by our insistence that life be the way we want it to be. Let us let go of the idea that if things are not the way we have been programmed to believe that they must be, then we cannot be happy. We can be happy if we want to. It is up to us and this technique will help us. As Ken Keyes says, “When you worry about what you do not have, you loose what you do have”. Let us start to look at what we do have, I am sure we will see that it is quite wonderful, if we can let go of the past and see the present as it really is. This is an essential part of our self therapy and self-transformation process.

a. After creating a state of deep relaxation, bring to your mind one by one the various negative feelings which you have been having about specific events or problems in your life. If you are holding negative feelings towards anyone, then bring that person to your mind and experience those feelings. Imagine your self expressing to the other how you are feeling. Explain to him or her why you are feeling that way, how you have been hurt, disappointed. Explain how you didn’t expect what happened, and how you would really have liked things to have happened differently. Express your self in your mind as clearly as you can, not only your anger, but also your feelings of hurt and vulnerability.

b. Once you have mentally expressed your feelings, then realize that these persons have acted out of weakness, out of fear and ignorance. There is no reason to condemn them. They have made a mistake. We too make mistakes. FORGIVE them and let go of your negative feelings. Forgive them and create if possible positive feelings towards them. Realize that they, like you, are in a process of evolution. They cannot be perfect. They will make mistakes.

c. Realize that you too are a soul in the process of evolution and that in truth, nothing can really harm you. You are indestructible and self-sufficient. Feel strong, big, safe and secure and forgive the other, realizing that your happiness and security cannot really depend on someone else.

d. Realize too that there is a universal law of cause and effect and that nothing could ever happen to you if you did not deserve it, if it was not useful for your evolutionary process. Thus realizing that, in fact, no one has ever done you an injustice. For some reason, it had to happen in that way regardless if you are able to understand why. That does not mean that we let people do what they want. We express to them our displeasure or in some cases we protect ourselves, even through court cases, but we let go of negative feelings. We can correct the other’s actions and protect ourselves from them without having negative feelings towards them; negative feelings which harm us more than them.

e. Thus while we are in the relaxation, we can imagine ourselves forgiving the other and accepting him. We can imagine that we are at good terms with each other. If you feel ready, you can even imagine that you are embracing, making up and experiencing love and harmony between you. If this is difficult, you can at least wish them to be healthy and happy in their lives. Do this for all the people in your family (independent as to whether you feel that you have serious problems with them). Do this with relatives, especially with parents and with coworkers or anyone else who has been close to you and has had the opportunity to hurt you, or disappoint you.

f. In this way, forgive each important person in your life for everything. Work on each person and each event separately and specifically. When you have difficulty forgiving a specific person, work on him or her in your relaxation on a daily basis until you overcome your inner resistance. This will do wonders for your own health and vitality. If your resentment is towards life or towards God, then do the same technique imagining life or God in some way and working in the same way. If you are feeling weak and helpless in a difficult world as a result of these difficulties which you have passed through, work on the technique for SELF CONFIDENCE or the technique of CONTACT WITH GOD. Doing this daily will free us from negative emotions concerning ourselves and others. If these emotions are intense, it would be better to seek out professional help in this process.

Pain Reduction

Pain Reduction

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NATURAL METHODS FOR REDUCING PAIN

 By Robert Elias Najemy

 Although I am not a doctor, I have 44 years extensive experience in dealing with people’s pain, change and growth, physical, emotional and spiritual. During that time I have come in contact with over 25,000 persons.

 The purpose of this pamphlet is to share the methods that I have found successful in dealing with and reducing physical and emotional pain. I have not felt motivated to search for the scientific explanations as to why they work. What interests me is that they are harmless, noninvasive and that they actually do reduce or remove pain in the majority of situations.

 

The purpose of these methods is to:

1. Stimulate the creation of naturally secreted endomorphins that work as natural internally created drugs lessening or removing pain.

2. Reduce negative reactions and tensing against the pain – which usually increases pain objectively and also subjectively as the patient focuses on it almost exclusively – making it even more «painful». We seek to create a «friendlier» relationship with the part of the body where the pain is centered.

3. Cause a freer flow of «bio-energy» as perceived by the science of Acupuncture – thus allowing for freedom from pain and also greater inner natural healing ability.

4. Relax the painful area – allowing for greater flow of blood and healing.

 

This may be done in any combination of the following ways:

1. Increase of warmth and the flow of blood to the area.

2. Relaxation of the nervous system in general and also of the specific area.

3. Relaxation of the mind.

4. Stimulation of the movement of bioenergy.

5. Removal of negative emotions that might be creating or increasing the pain

 

What are the benefits of such an approach?

 1. The patient experiences less pain

2. There less need for drugs and thus less side effects and less addiction.

3. The patient experiences greater sense of control and self-esteem.

4. There is a greater possibility of self-healing energy

 

What results can we expect?

 1. In some cases there will be immediate long lasting or short-lived success.

2. In other cases results will come slowly.

3. Pain may be slightly or significantly lessened.

4. The patient may need to take drugs

5. A combination or natural methods and drugs might be needed

 

How can I learn these techniques for myself or others?

 

We have created a series of audio instructions for guiding you in these techniques.

You can order the CD «Natural Pain Reduction and Self-healing» containing the following methods.

1. Breathing Exercises for reducing pain.

2. Deep relaxation for pain relief

3. EFT for pain

 

You can procure these audio files in two different ways.

1. You can download or listen to the audio mp3 files for free at the bottom of this page.  We hope you will help us out by filling out our very short questionnaire the first 12 times you perform the techniques and send in your questionnaire answers for our research study.

2. If you prefer, you can order our CD with all three techniques for only $ 7 – at https://www.armonikizoi.com/store/products/pain-reduction-cd

Once you have employed these methods, help us help others by filling out the questionnaire at https://www.armonikizoi.com/2012/pain-questionnaire

May you be well on all levels of your Being.

Techniques for Removing Pain

Techniques for Removing Pain

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More information about ways in which, we can lessen or remove pain?

 

Before employing any of these methods you should consult your doctor concerning your specific needs. Never stop taking any medicines of any type without your doctor’s consent.

 

What help we get from others? (Under each suggestion there is the address of a «google» internet search presenting a list of thousands articles on that method.)

 

1. Pain relievers, as prescribed by doctors everywhere, have freed many billions of people from pain.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=pain+releivers&btnG=%C1%ED%E1%E6%DE%F4%E7%F3%E7&meta=

 

2. Reflexology has been used to remove pain for millions of people. By massaging reflex points on the sole of the foot, we are able to bring greater blood flow and relief to the painful area.

(Not to be used when there is internal or external hemorrhaging.)

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=relexology+for+pain&meta=

 

3. Acupuncture has been successful in blocking or removing pain for millions with a wide variety of health problems and even as anesthesia during surgery.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=acunpuncture+for+pain&btnG=%C1%ED%E1%E6%DE%F4%E7%F3%E7&meta=

 

4. Homeopathy too has freed millions of people from pain and illness.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=homeopathy+for+pain&meta=

 

There are also many other professional modes of healing and comforting.

 

The purpose of this article however is to introduce you to the following self-help methods that you can apply yourself.

 

How can we help ourselves?

 

Some simple methods for reducing pain by enabling the nerves and muscles to relax and increase the production of natural endomorpins are the following.

 

1. Heat and / or cold (wet or dry) are used extensively by physiotherapist to comfort, relax and heal joints and muscles.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=cold+for+pain&btnG=%C1%ED%E1%E6%DE%F4%E7%F3%E7&meta=

 

2. Herbs have been used for centuries to remove pain. Herbs are the prototypes from which our medical pain relievers are created. See the notes below taken from the Internet. Herbs (such as Camomile, Bromelain (pineapple extract) , Valerian, St. John’s wort, Jamaican dogwood, Burdock lemon balm ) can be taken as teas, capsules or even as oils or creams applied topically.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=herbs+for+pain

 

3. Music has been successfully used as anesthesia for both dental work and surgery.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=music+for+pain&meta=

 

4. Breathing Techniques relax the nerves and muscles and increase the natural endomorphin production. We have produced a guided breathing technique to help with that.

You can get it as a CD or download it for free from the Internet. See below

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=breathing+therapy&meta=

 

5. Deep Relaxation (in some cases – when possible – with our hands on painful area) is a very effective method for reducing and removing pain.

We have produced a guided relaxation exercise to guide you in that process. See below

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=deep+relaxation+for+pain&meta=

Also refer to details at our site at https://www.armonikizoi.com/english-articles

 

6. «Energy Psychology» techniques discovered by Dr. Roger Callahan in 1980 (originally «Thought Field Therapy) – and developed by many others since then – have proven to have a «miraculous» effect on physical pain and negative emotions. This technique is based on stimulating acupuncture points while focusing on the pain or negative emotion. It can be performed both physically and mentally. The main forms of this method are called EFT and TAT.

We have produced audio and video instructions for how to do this. See below.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859 7&q=energy+psychology+for+pain&meta=

Also refer to the book Energy Psychology by Robert Elias Najemy.

Also refer to details at our site at https://www.armonikizoi.com/2011/help-yourself-and-others-with-energy-psychology

 

7. «Letting go methods» enable some to either become reconciled with the pain or actually «let it go» – as difficult as that might seem. We all know that people have different pain thresholds. This ability to allow it to be, might explain this phenomena.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=sedona+method+for+pain&meta=

 

8. Various forms of release such as laughing, crying and yawning can free up pent up emotions and energies that may be causing pain. We have witnessed such phenomena frequently.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=laughing+for+pain&meta=

 

9. In some cases when the physical pain is in fact «stored emotional pain», it may respond to methods for coming into contact with and releasing emotions. This requires professional guidance.

http://www.google.com.gr/search?hl=el&inlang=el&ie=ISO-8859-7&q=emotional+release+for+pain&btnG=%C1%ED%E1%E6%DE%F4%E7%F3%E7&meta=