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Our childhood experiences pretty much determine our self-image, perceptions of reality, emotions reactions and thus, in essence, our reality.
If we really want to be free from these self-limiting influences we will have to discover them and transform them. Such work requires an experienced guide, but this list may help you get started.
Continue reading “Healing Our Inner Child, part 1: Healing Childhood Experiences”
We suggest that you also read the parts previous and following to this.
As children we tend to make many false conclusions about reality, usually burdening ourselves with the responsibility for everything including our parents? anger, absence, abandonment, unhappiness, illness, separation, death etc.
Continue reading “Healing Our Inner Child, part 2: Mistaken Conclusions”
John and Barbara have three children in junior and senior high school. Their house is the site of frequent battles concerning how much the children should study and what grades are acceptable.
Continue reading “Anxiety About Grades (Life Story no. 2)”
WHAT HAPPENED?
We were so suited for each other, so in love, so happy together. We had so many dreams. Our first moments together were full of joy, happiness and the excitement of being close to someone who loved us and understood us. We were so sure that we would live “happily ever after”. We never thought that we would arrive to this state of lack of communication, misunderstanding, distancing, indifference and even competition, aggressiveness and verbal violence. What happened? How did this happen? What can we do so as to be loving again as we were?
Continue reading “Basic Relationship Problems”
The mind is the molder of our personal and communal world.
Every event we perceive through our senses is analyzed, evaluated and registered in the mind as pleasant, unpleasant or neutral. Our belief systems seek to determine whether each perceived input is something, which will “protect” or “endanger” our security, self-worth and / or freedom.
Continue reading “Create Happiness with a Positive Life Outlook (part 1 of 8)”
You may see someone you know in Anthony – perhaps even yourself.
Anthony plays the role of “the savior.” He feels responsible for just about everyoneΥs reality. He believes he must rescue them and keep them well and happy. . He feels he has failed in his “role”, and cannot rest, as long as someone he feels responsible for is not well and happy. Others easily use or control him by making him feel responsible for the fact that they are not well or happy.
Continue reading “The Roles of Parent, Savior, Teacher and Super-responsible (Life Story no. 17)”
A human being is pretty much formed and programmed in his or her concepts about himself or herself and the surrounding world by the age of eight. Most of the work, which is done today by psychologists and psychiatrists, is to solve the problems and fill the gaps left by the experiences of those earlier years. Wouldn’t it be better to pay more attention to how we bring up our children so that they can be stronger, more able, happier, more in harmony with themselves and their environment? The future of the world depends on our children. The quality of our children and their ability to create a better world depends on us, but not in the way most may think. Let us consider here how we can help our children and ourselves to find harmony, health and happiness.
Continue reading “Our Childrens’ Needs no.1”
Why this is important
We often become emotionally disturbed during a disagreement, or an argument, or when someone criticizes us or disagrees with us. In such cases our personality usually feels hurt, demeaned and in danger.
When we feel this way, we destroy our own happiness, clarity and health and often behave in ways which we later regret.
Continue reading “Dealing With Criticism and Difference in Opinion”
Anna does whatever she is asked to do even when she doesn’t want to do it.
Feeling mistreated, she grumbles, complains and bursts out in anger every so often because of her accumulated resentment. Although she feels suppressed, she finds it impossible to say “No”.
Continue reading “Life Situations and Lessons Series: Self Supression”
SECURITY
Children need to feel secure. Few feel secure when there are conflicts occurring around them. Few can relax inwardly when others around them are shouting, accusing, criticizing and hating each other. To a small child, tension between parents, or between parents and the child or other children, constitute a deep chasm of insecurity.
Continue reading “Our Childrens’ Needs no.2”