The ultimate question in all of our psychological search is “what is my lesson here?” ” What do I need to learn from this situation which is limiting my happiness or my effective functioning?” Throughout the book, we have presented you with various situations which we have observed throughout the years which cause pain and suffering for us as individuals and as couples. In this chapter we will learn a method for discovering what our lessons are in those situations. The key to discovering what we need to learn is the faith that everything which happens to us is a result of a process called mirroring, sympathetic attunement, resonance or projection. This means that whatever we are experiencing from the outside world, and especially through the behavior of those close to us, is a mirroring, a reflection, a sympathetic resonance with, or a projection of, something that is in me. My beliefs, emotions, expectations, fears etc. are mirroring, reflecting, projecting or resonating in my external world creating the behaviors and events which I experience. Those events, behaviors or situations which cause us to feel unpleasant feelings, are specifically mirroring parts of our self which are ripe and ready to be transformed. This is a very powerful tool for self discovery because it gives us a very clear understanding of what we need to change while simultaneously freeing us from negative feelings towards the others. We realize that we our selves attract the behaviors and events which create our reality. It is through exactly those stimuli that we will be motivated to evolve out of our old limiting beliefs into new beliefs, more aligned with the truths of our real spiritual nature. What we are saying will not be accepted by many people. It is a philosophy based on the following basic tenants (fig. 23). Continue reading “A36 Life’s Lessons: We often wonder what we have to learn in relationship to certain behaviors which upset us. This article describes a method for discovering our lessons”

Here I will mention some of the major conflicts I have noticed in counseling relationship partners and families over the years. You may find a little of your self in some of these descriptions. Continue reading “A52 Relationship Conflicts: An analysis of some of the conflicts more common found in relationships”

Yoga exercises have a very positive effect on all the systems of the body. What are the mechanisms through which these changes occur? Below we shall discuss some possible answers. Continue reading “A68 How Yoga Exercises Produce Their Results: How these exercises create their benefits”

Often we feel like two or more people, who have sometimes conflicting needs, desires or beliefs. We experience internal conflict. We are not sure what to do which decision to make. This occurs when our “sub-personalities” or “personas” have conflicting needs. Continue reading “A84 Resolving Inner Conflicts: We have differing needs and desires which cause us to be in conflict with ourselves. We can resolve to conflicts”

Are we puppets moved by some divine hand? Is our every thought and act already planned? Or are we independent souls able to make decisions and create our own destiny? Or is the truth found in a merging of these two opposites? In this Chapter we will investigate some possible answers to these questions. Continue reading “A20 Fate and Free Will: Some examples which seek to aid our understanding of the enigma of the simultaneous existence of Free Will and Fate”

When we can free ourselves from our labyrinth of unpleasant emotions and internal conflicts, we will be able to love others more fully and steadily. As this subject is covered in the books THE PSYCHOLOGY OF HAPPINESS, EMEIS and the MIRACLES OF LOVE AND WISDOM, we will present here only a few of the questionnaires which can be used to aid the cultivation of love for others. Continue reading “A37 Loving Others: What are the obstacles towards loving others and how can we overcome them”

We all need relationships. We depend on these relationships for the satisfaction of our emotional, and to some extent, our physical needs. Our happiness depends to a large degree on how harmonious these relationships are. If we cannot get along with our partner, child, or parent, then it is difficult to be happy. Continue reading “A53 Relationships Communication: How to communicate more effectively with love partners”

From the forthcoming book SELF THERAPY

by Robert Najemy

Every one wants to be healthy and full of vitality, but few manage to be so. Why is this so? Each person creates his own health and his own illness with the way he lives, thinks and acts. Continue reading “A69 The Basis Of Self Therapy: How we seek through natural means to restore the flow of divine energy in the body and mind”

Many consider emotions to be an obstacle to our happiness and spiritual growth. We are encouraged to ignore them and some of the older schools of thought encourage us to suppress them, to reject them and perhaps even hate ourselves because we have them. Continue reading “A86 Riding our Emotions to Freedom”

(Although this chapter is also found in the second volume of the book «The Psychology of Happiness», I have included it here because I believe that it is especially important and relative to what we are discussing here.)

Many of us are discontented with our lives, or work, our way of living. But few of us know what it is that we really want to do, and fewer still have the courage to do what they really want in order to find happiness and fulfillment. Continue reading “A21 Finding our Role In Life: Suggestions on how to connect with”