Ho’oponopono and how to Transform our Reality by Purifying Ourselves 


The ancient Hawaiian healing technique called Ho’oponopono asks us to take 100% responsibility for whatever appears in our reality – for whatever we perceive or comes to our attention. In this process we cleanse ourselves and our personal input into what we call, “our reality”, which is personal, communal and planetary. We change the world by changing ourselves. It is simultaneously a method for solving problems and for healing ourselves and others as well as situations. It is also a means for spiritual development and enlightenment.

The process is simple:


1. We realize or remember that whatever we are observing or is affecting us in any way is there because it is reflecting something within ourselves – mainly our personal memories, beliefs, emotions and programming.


We are attracting that specific reality because it is time to clean a certain part of ourselves that is contributing to it and actually co-creating it in some way. The specific reality might be persons or situations that seem to be not well – not harmonious. Or it could be something that bothers us personally – such as someone’s behavior or a world situation.


2. Having taken responsibility for the reality before us, we now we ask that person, situation or attribute for forgiveness for our participation in that specific reality that has come into our awareness.


Instead of asking for forgiveness we can simply acknowledge that we are participants in creating this reality.


Another option would be to thank the person or situation for the opportunity for self-knowledge and growth that it has offered us until now.


Note: It is highly unlikely that we will understand what our “contribution” to this is. It could be from our deep subconscious or even deeper dimensions of ourselves that we are not aware of. The “cause within us” may be as simple as the fact that we are unable to perceive the Divine in ourselves or others, or in what is happening, and thus are allowing whatever it is to annoy us.


3. We then feel and express our love to “that” which was bothering us or seems to be “not well or harmonious”. When doing so, we seek to feel acceptance, love, unity and good wishes for that person, event or situation.


4. We then need to feel love and acceptance towards ourselves as we are and let go of any guilt or self-condemnation with regards to this or any other reason.


5. Then we release the person, situation or event – whatever is bothering us – from the need to be that way any more for our evolutionary process. We give it permission to change.


6. Then we thank the Divine for dissolving these unenlightened memories, tendencies, fears and beliefs into the light of pure divine consciousness – which is actually their original state.


If possible, we can then remain some time in a state of emptiness or inner light as we allow the Divine to cleanse us of anything that might be attracting this undesired reality.


One hundred percent responsibility ???


This concept of responsibility is quite difficult for most of us to digest. Can we take responsibility for other people’s irresponsible or unethical actions? How can we be responsible for those who are abusing women and children or killing innocent persons in Iraq, Africa or elsewhere? Can we take responsibility for terrorist acts around the world? Such reactions naturally come to mind when we are asked to believe and employ this revolutionary system.


How can we be responsible for what “we” have not done and for what we would “probably” (we will never know until we find ourselves in the same circumstances) never do? How can we be responsible for what others are doing on the other side of the world and for situations perpetuated by leaders that we never voted for, do not agree with and even condemn?


Also how do we reconcile this truth with another equally obvious and valid truth that each of us is the exclusive creator of his or her reality and that others do not create our reality and we do not create theirs. These truths seem to be irreconcilable.


And yet, millions have found Ho’oponopono to be a really superb technique that leads ultimately to purity, love and freedom from negativity. But, even more impressively, it actually does change the external world.


Let us play with ideas that may help understand how it might work.


Our Collective Unconscious


We have many common emotions, beliefs and modes of functioning as hypothesized by Carl Jung in his theory of the Collective Unconscious. We share many programmings, fears, emotions and desires. It may just be that we are all affected by each other’s subconscious. Many experiments today are showing that we can be affected by what others are feeling, even though consciously we are not aware of what is happening. This is especially true of people with whom we are closely emotionally bound.


Quantum Physics has shown that the same is true of particles that have been in contact at some point in their history. Whatever happens to the one immediately affects the other.


Psychologists are also aware of the “connected container effect,” which speculates that people are like two containers with water connected by a pipe at their base. When we suppress the water in one container, it will rise in the other. It is well know that in a marital or family situation, one person’s suppressed emotions are communicated and often expressed by other members. Whatever we do to our own “water system” will affect the others who are connected to us in this way. We are affecting others by our invisible emotional connections to them.


Social paradigms


We are also affected by and participate in the common social paradigms into which we are born and raised. When we accept and act according to these paradigms, we are augmenting them for everyone else. Thus we are supporting others’ belief systems by allowing ourselves to be limited by those belief systems. If we believe that those who are different from us (race, religion, social class) are a danger to us, then we are co-creating that reality. If we believe there is not enough for all of us, we are co-creating that reality. If we believe that life is difficult and people are not to be trusted, we are contributing to those realities.


Our common morphogenetic field


Biologist Rupert Sheldrake’s theory of the morphogenetic field adds a biological dimension to this. He believes that our bodies and minds get their information from a common pool of knowledge and tendencies that exist in a field commonly accessible to us all. When any one of us makes a change in lifestyle, emotions or ways of thinking, those changes affect to some degree the state of our commonly shared field and that makes this new way of thinking or reacting more available and more possible to all others sharing that field. This works for all emotions, beliefs and behaviors, negative and positive. Remaining in our old unenlightened beliefs and behaviors affects all others through this shared field. We are co-responsible for what is happening. On the other hand, our positive changes enable others to do the same.


Our personal causal body


Philosophical systems teach that we each have a personal “causal body” where all of our soul memories and tendencies, qualities and abilities are stored along with all of our fears and other emotions. All of our positive and negative tendencies are stored there. Upon birth these dictate the type of physical body we will have as well as the conditions of our birth and our emotional and mental tendencies. These affect, but do not exclusively determine, most major events of our lives. We are attracting realities that, to a great degree, are formed by the content of our causal body. This does not, however, create an ironclad fate, because in each moment we are adding and removing qualities from that causal field when we change the way we perceive, think, act and react.


When we perform Ho’oponopono and other perception-and-reaction-altering methods, we are changing the content of our conscious and subconscious minds as well as our causal body. We are requesting and allowing for all tendencies in our causal bodies that might be contributing to what we are perceiving and being affected by, to be removed and dissolved once again into pure consciousness – which is what they ultimately are.


Universal consciousness


All thoughts, emotions, memories, actions and reactions as well as all physical objects and beings and the interactions between them are simply manifestations of one universal consciousness. This is similar to the fact that all images on the movie or TV screen are temporary manifestations of one white light that only temporarily takes these forms – including the “good”, “bad”, loving, hateful, mineral, plant, animal, humans and all interactions between them.


The white light of the TV, when nothing is playing, is the like the zero point from which all appears and re-dissolves. In Ho’oponopono we are asking the Divine to dissolve all tendencies that might be contributing to what we are witnessing, back into their real nature, which is white, undifferentiated light.


Our common causal body


Similar to the morphogenetic field, we all share a common universal causal body. There is a causal body for each species of animals and plant and one for all men and one for all women and one for all humans and one for the planet itself.


This common causal body includes all of our shared tendencies that affect humanity and the planet as a whole. Thus, when we get free from anger, fear or guilt, we make those tendencies less available in the shared causal body. Love, understanding, responsibility and peace then become more available.


Ho’oponopono and all forms of energy psychology such as EFT, TAT, TFT, BSFF, EMDR, The Sedona Method, Freeze Frame, meditation, prayer and wide variety of other methods allow us to perceive and react differently. When these old memories and programmings dissolve – they are also lessened in all of humanity as a whole.


Spiritual teachings


All religions teach the concept of divine justice. Everyone is getting exactly what they justly deserve based on what they have done in the past until now. In Christianity this is expressed in Christ’s words, “as you sow, so shall you reap,” and “as you judge, so will you be judged.” Also when Christ healed the paralyzed man, he said to him, “get up and walk – your sins have been forgiven,” indicating that he was paralyzed because of some past mistakes.


According to these spiritual teachings and the law of karma taught by eastern religions, someone could harm us only if the universal laws of perfect justice allow them to. Thus, if the universe is allowing someone to behave in negative ways, our only conclusion can only be that even though this feels totally unjust and wrong, it is being allowed and, thus, there must be some hidden justice and thus there must be some “cause” within me which is attracting or allowing this.


The actual meaning of Ho’oponopono is to correct or make right again. We simply assume that we, in this or perhaps (if you believe so) in some past life, have done something that is contributing to what is occurring. Another possibility is that it is happening because we need to learn something. In which case we can express our gratitude and love to the other for giving us this opportunity to learn and grow through this experience.


The next question is how do we affect each other and how is our personal and collective reality created?


Creating  reality through interpretation and projection


We create our subjective reality by the way in which we interpret behaviors, situations and events.  Unfortunately most often we are not perceiving what is there, but actually perceiving what we have been programmed to believe is there. Our belief system works as a filter that subjectively and selectively interprets whatever is perceived in ways that corroborate what we already believe and ignores what we do not.


For example, if we believe that others will reject us and do not love us, we will interpret their suggestions or other actions as a form of rejection and lack of love for us even when that is simply not the truth. We have all been surprised to discover that people have misinterpreted our actions, believing that we had motives and feelings that we never had.


We do the same. We project onto persons and situations motives and dangers that simply are not there. When we do so, we experience fear, pain and bitterness, creating unnecessary unhappiness for ourselves and others.


Conflicting belief systems and memories


We could subdivide our beliefs into the following categories:


1. Emotionally Charged Impressions – These are not so much beliefs as “emotionally charged impressions” that are imprinted on the mind during traumatic experiences. The mind then identifies this particular stimulus with an emotionally charged feeling, and when we think of it, we feel fear and other emotions. This kind of “belief” has a strong “emotional charge” but is not based on observations and facts, but rather on one or two intense experiences, which are not representative of reality.


2. Mistaken Childhood Conclusions –  These are mistaken beliefs about reality in which we perceive ourselves as weak, wrong, unlovable and to blame for just about everything that happens around us, such as our parents’ and others’ anger, absence, unhappiness, indifference, divorce, illness, and even their death. We falsely interpret that we are unworthy or unable and that others will always behave towards us in ways that we experienced in childhood.


These first two categories are usually repressed in the subconscious mind (in the «shadow», or inner child) because of the pain and confusion they produce. We suppress them so that we can focus and function in our daily lives.


Although these “beliefs” are repressed so that we do not feel the unpleasant negative emotional energy charge associated with them, they are activated whenever we come into contact with or think of a specific stimulus. They generate fear, panic, emotional withdrawal and often aggressive behavior. They also create psychosomatic illnesses. They control our reactions to events, situations and persons.  Most importantly, they attract the realities we encounter.


Because of their repression and subsequent isolation from our conscious mind, these first two belief systems do not evolve as we do. They remain in their original state regardless of our evolving logic, reasoning, new experiences and spiritual faith. Unless we engage in inner psychological or spiritual work, they receive no new data.


3. Our Evolving Conscious Belief System – This is our conscious belief system which, as it processes new data, reevaluates its perceptions of reality seeking to make the adjustments necessary to understand the truths behind the phenomena we observe.


This conscious belief system is evolving in a small number of people. Many have stopped processing new data and thus have remained with the same conscious belief system for many years and will leave their bodies with it.


This belief system understands that we are safe, secure, good, worthy and capable. It also realizes that we are not in danger from people, heights, cars, insects, dogs, cats, elevators, airplanes etc. The facts available to it cause it to realize that its fears are unfounded. It also realizes that our self-worth has nothing to do with what others say, think or do.


4 Our Spiritual Intuitive Faith – These beliefs are usually based on intuition or faith rather than proof. We feel that what we believe is true. In addition to being affected by others’ spiritual beliefs, we also experience our own inner awakenings or revelations in which we just “know” that something is true.


According to Ho’oponopono, this divine inspiration can occur only when the mind is purified of the previous three types of mental content, all of which are created and limited by memory.


The reality is that we often experience behaviors, events and situations through simultaneous beliefs from all four categories, that create conflicting emotions and reactions to what is happening. We might simultaneously feel love, peace, hurt and anger because our various beliefs are creating different internal realities.


Thus, one basic way in which we create our reality is the way in which we interpret whatever is happening in our lives. No two persons create the same reality with the same external stimuli.


Creating reality through attraction and mirroring


The second factor contributing to our personal reality is how we actually attract or create the events that occur in our lives – what actually happens to us.


Of the various theories the one that states that we ourselves are the creators of our reality seems to explain a larger, more encompassing portion of the reality we perceive. This explanation becomes even more understandable when we remove the illusion of separation between us as individual expressions of the Divine and divinity itself. When we perceive ourselves as temporary expressions of divine consciousness or divine energy in the physical realm, it becomes clear that we are all individually and collectively co-creating our personal and social reality.


We are the Divine itself encased in temporary bodies. We are creating and forming our reality.  We do so in various ways.


a. The past. Our previous thoughts, actions, choices, feelings and words all have a causal impact on our present reality. This concept is accepted by all religions and spiritual philosophies. Not all may believe in reincarnation but all do believe in cause and effect, as we have already mentioned.  Our choices to care for ourselves or not, to communicate sincerely and honestly or not, to help and love others or not, to free ourselves from fears or not, all have their effect on our present reality.


b. The present. Our present thoughts, beliefs, expectations, fears, guilt and other emotions and behaviors all create our present reality through the “laws of reflection and attraction”. Others, and life itself, reflect back to us the content of our mind and behavior on all levels. We attract rejection when we reject ourselves, fear or expect rejection, or reject others. If we think, speak or act antagonistically or egotistically, we attract the same. Basically, we attract whatever we fear, love, desire and hate, as well as what we expect and what we do.


Life wisely mirrors back to us our own thoughts, emotions, beliefs, roles and behaviors, offering us an opportunity to look inward and let go of those aspects of ourselves that are attracting what is unpleasant for us. In such a case, our lesson is to discover what is being reflected and transform it. Otherwise we will continue to attract our present reality. This fact is basic to Ho’oponopono. This is what we need to clean in order to heal what we are co-creating.


It is important to understand that the power and opportunity for positive change is in the present and nowhere else. We cannot change the past – but we can change our perception of the past – and thus its effect upon us – in the present. We do not know the future, but can form it by our choices in the now moment.


Some people accept negative realities believing that it is some “karma” that they have to suffer. There is no benefit from suffering or being punished if we do not learn something from the experience and if it does not initiate change. The concept that we must suffer for past mistakes has no value if that pain does not become an opportunity for growth.


c. Our soul choices. The third factor that determines the nature of the events occurring in our lives are our “soul choices”. We as souls chose even before birth that we would like to, or need to, learn certain lessons as a part of our evolutionary process. If we have chosen to learn self-acceptance, we will naturally “make a contract” with those close to us to test our ability to feel our self-worth even in the face of disapproval or rejection. If we have decided to learn unconditional love or forgiveness, we will logically choose close contact with persons who will be difficult for us to love. In this way we have the opportunity to overcome our fears and love even those persons. If we would like to learn self-dependency, we will set up a life drama in which we will not easily find support from others. We also have the free will to resist learning any of those lessons.


When we are passing through difficult times, it may not because we have been “bad” in the past, but because we have chosen to learn specific lessons.
Through Ho’oponopono we are releasing those persons with whom we have made these «contracts» from the need to continue playing their roles that test us, because we have learned the lesson, which is to take responsibility for our reality and love them.


Thus, we and all others create our personal and collective reality through our:


a. Past beliefs, words, choices, actions and behaviors.


b. Present beliefs, words, expectations, choices, actions and behaviors.


c. Our soul decisions to learn certain lessons.


d. How our presently programmed belief systems interpret what is happening


How do we affect each other?


Sympathetic vibration is a law of physics that states, among other things, that if we have two guitars or two pianos and we strike a cord on one of them, then the cord on the other that is tuned to the same frequency as the one we have struck on the first will be the most affected and will start to vibrate. A vibration of one will affect the other only if it is tuned to the same frequency. If it is tuned to another frequency it will likely not be stimulated.


We can imagine in the same way that are affecting each other by the conscious and subconscious frequencies that we are emitting.  We and others would not be affected if we did not have something within ourselves that is being stimulated by what is happening or being emitted by the other. We will investigate later on the possible aspects of our psychology that might be stimulating aspects in others and vice versa.


We supply the stimulus – they create their reality

They supply the stimulus – we create our reality


It is important to clarify we are responsible only for our conscious and subconscious output in the past and present – but not for what actually happens to the other. That is their creation.


Our only power is to purify our own selves and remove (or ask the Divine to remove) our aspects that affect, or attract through sympathetic vibration, negative realities for ourselves and others. Ho’oponopono is the process of eliminating our own “strings” from vibrating at those frequencies so that we cease adding to others’ realities. We are purifying our own input in the reality around us.


We are affected by others in the same way. When others’ “vibrating strings” stimulate movement in us, they are the stimulus but it is our own programming that causes us to be affected and create our own personal reality.


Quantum physics – collapsing the wave


Quantum physics tells us that a photon or electron is actually a wave of possibilities until there is a witness that causes that wave to “collapse” into a specific particle in a specific place and time. It appears that the witness causes the wave of possibilities to leave that state of many possibilities and become one specific reality as we know it.


We might imagine that something similar is happening between ourselves and life. Imagine life as a wave of possibilities, all of which exist together in an unmanifest state. In this state nothing is formed yet. All is possible. Memories and programs are not yet limiting this conscious- energy.


Once pure consciousness begins to express itself through our programmed minds it becomes limited and tends to attract what is in agreement with our memories and programming. Our beliefs and emotions cause the unlimited formless consciousness to form into what we call our reality – with people, actions and events – all of which are reflections of and responses to our inner content.


Ho’oponopono is a process for cleaning out our inner content so that we can cease distorting the expression of this pure consciousness in our lives. When we ask others to forgive us, it is not because we have done them some harm or made a mistake. It is because we are acknowledging that we ourselves are creating our reality and not them. Also we are realizing that something in our programming has brought them into our awareness and causes us to notice them and perhaps have feelings about what is happening or what they are doing.


Once we realize that it is our own inner reality that is causing this outer reality to manifest and affect us, then we are free from feeling that we are the victims or that others are responsible for our reality. We are taking 100% responsibility for our own reality. We realize that the only way to change that reality is to free ourselves from whatever there is within us that is contributing to it – even thought we do not know what it might be.


Our inner content


Our beliefs, emotions, programmings, needs, desire, fears, attachments and behaviors all reflect back to us through others’ behaviors and life itself.  Following is a list of some aspects of ourselves that might be reflecting back to us through others’ behaviors or situations.


Note: Ho’oponopono does not require that we know what it is within us that needs to be cleaned.


The presence of any of the below can easily attract corresponding behaviors and situations.


1. When we feel negative emotions about what is happening, we attract them so that we can become free within ourselves.


2. When we have specific limiting beliefs about others and what is happening, or when we perceive someone or something as bad, wrong, unjust etc, we attract them so that we can work on it.


3. Our own behaviors until now towards this person or towards others in the past reflect back to us in the present so that we can learn from them.


4. Our fears attract and create realities. Especially our fears concerning our self-worth, security, freedom, pleasure or control.


5. We also attract what we expect from others and life.


6. Our doubts about what we deserve limit our reality to what we believe we deserve.


7.  How we behave towards ourselves causes others to behave towards us in similar ways.


8. Unresolved childhood experiences tend to replay repeatedly in our lives until we manage to heal them.


9. The roles we identify with for our meaning, self-worth and security can attract life situations and  corresponding behaviors from others, so that we can free ourselves from the illusions and limitations of those roles.  We might be playing some of the following roles: A. the victim B. the intimidator C. the teacher D. the parent E. the child F. the intelligent one G. the righteous one H. the rebel I. the strong one – without needs J. the just one K. the Good person L. the one responsible for all M. the server N. the weak one O. the spiritual person P. the judge Q. the aloof one, R. the critic or interrogator Q. some other role.


10. Those needs and attachments that are limiting our peace, happiness, love or evolution may reflect in various life situations and behaviors so that we can have an opportunity to free ourselves from them.


11. Our tendency to feel guilty attracts behaviors and situations that stimulate that programming so that we can free ourselves from it.


12. We bring into our lives whatever we criticize, judge, reject or have prejudiced perceptions of.


13. We attract whatever causes us to feel jealousy, pain, anger, bitterness, injustice or any other negative emotion, so that we can have an opportunity to get free from the illusions that create those emotions.


14. We attract whatever we cannot forgive in others or in ourselves.


15. When we compare ourselves to others, we bring them into our reality.


16. Our own inner conflicts and self-doubt attracts specific behaviors from others that bring those feelings to the surface.


17. When we fail to communicate clearly and assertively, but without criticism or condemnation, we create realities in which we do not get what we need.


18. If we have become accustomed to a reality, we tend to stay in it because of our fear of change.


19. If we fear happiness, abundance, health, being loved etc, we will obstruct positive realities.


These and other aspects of our inner world can very easily be contributing factors in the realities we are co-creating.


How might we be contributing to world crises?


Most of us are unhappy with the way the world is and tend to be critical of our own and other leaders and how they are handling these issues, which might be global warming, the Middle East, terrorism, Africa, the economy etc. When we feel rejection or hate towards whatever is in our reality, we actually energize and increase it. We actually empower whatever we hate or whatever we allow to bother us in any way.


How might we be contributing to these national and planetary realities?


1. First of all, our leaders are simply a manifestation of our group consciousness. When our consciousness changes, our leaders will change. We need to look into ourselves to understand why we have the leaders we do and how we empower them.


2. Another way that we contribute is through our dependency on comfort and material things. All of these require oil, water and heat and deplete the natural resources of the earth. Our addiction to these comforts causes us to give much money and, thus, power to the conglomerates that produce them and they in turn have the ability to control the governments. We are giving our power (through money) to the businesspersons who are controlling the politicians who are making the decisions. Our life style is directly responsible for global warming and policies that have to do with a need for oil.


3. Our personal identification with the small group of persons we feel comfortable with and our alienation from people from other religions, races or nationalities reflects in the situations in Kosovo, Ireland, the Middle East, Africa and all over the world, where people from different groupings are fighting with each other. They are a reflection of the fact that we do not yet feel the same unity with all religions, races and nationalities or even social classes.


4. The unjust and biased misuse of power in the world simply reflects our own misuse of power as parents, spouses, employers etc. Few people have learned to use their power in a totally just and unbiased way. Our governments are simply doing the same. They are nothing more than reflections of our own state of evolution – or lack thereof.


5. We can never know what we would do if we were in another’s position. If a foreign power came into and occupied the USA or Europe, would we be pacifists or terrorists until they left? Were the early Americans, who ambushed and killed the British, terrorists or freedom fighters?  On the other hand, if we were the leader of a country and someone bombed us and killed our people, could we do nothing about it?


Most often the actions of both sides in these conflicts are extreme, unjust and unenlightened – but they are the exact reflection of our personal tendencies. It is easy to judge others when we are not experiencing their situation. This judgment only increases what is happening.


6. All of our problems start with the illusion of our separateness from others, which then leads to fear, self-protective mechanisms, alienation and indifference to how others are fairing. We become imprisoned in self-serving lives with a basic mistrust of those we do not know or of those who are not like us. This in itself is an illusion that attracts a wide variety of personal and social realities. Political and religious leaders add to these fears and mistrust by reinforcing the idea that only we have the truth and that the others are bad and want to do us harm. When we are functioning in such paradigms, we are contributing to the social and world situation as it is.  


These world situations are simply reflections of our own mental tendencies that need to be purified and evolved with Ho’oponopono and other methods.


We are all in a process of growth


As souls in the process of becoming more emotionally, mentally and spiritually mature and enlightened, we attract to ourselves situations that offer us the opportunity to learn the next lessons we need to learn in our evolutionary process. Of course, we have the free will to learn from these situations or not. We have the option of holding on to our pain, fear, guilt and anger, or we can let go of all that as we upgrade our perception of reality and move into forgiveness, self-acceptance, love and peace.


Some of the situations we are attracting are for the purpose of learning these lessons. We may not have done something in the past to warrant what is happening. We may have chosen as souls for this to happen because we can use that to let go of fear and old dysfunctional beliefs and move forward.


In such cases we are responsible not because we have harmed someone, but because we have chosen this as a growth process. In such a case we can ask forgiveness, or simply “free the other or the life situation” from the need to be that way any more, because we have learned the lesson that we are responsible and that we can love whomever or whatever it is. Having learned to love, we do not need the lesson anymore.


We are all one spiritual consciousness.


Most religions teach that we are ultimately all one with the Divine and that in the Divine we are one. St. John the Evangelist quotes Christ as saying, “I am in you and you are in me and I am in the Father and Father is in me.”  Eastern religions are even more emphatic in declaring that we are actually all expressions of one divine consciousness. We are one consciousness, which seems to have split into many, as does the light of the projector at the cinema appear to break up into many different beings and their interactions on the screen. We are all projections of one divine consciousness, which is ultimately interacting with itself through our actions.


We, however, have the free will (or won’t) and power to hinder the purity of that expression and we are in a process of purifying and evolving our ability to express our true spiritual nature. We are all evolving together and each person’s success in that process benefits us all. Simultaneously each person’s refusal affects us all.


Ho’oponopono is a process in which we recognize that we are not yet enlightened, that we still are attracting realities based on ignorance, memories and programmings. Having realized this, we ask forgiveness from or thank the phenomena we are attracting, and reestablish the state of love, which is based on the truth that we are actually one being. Then we thank the Divine for removing from us whatever may be other than love.




Ho’oponopono is a process in which we realize that:


  1. We are attracting all that is in our reality for some reason – it is not by chance.
  2. We are co-creators of all that is happening personally and socially.
  3. Everything is as it should be for the moment – as a stimulus to correct it in ourselves.
  4. We can correct ourselves and by doing so affect the others and the whole.
  5. We do not need to know what we are correcting in ourselves. We do not need to know what it is in us that is resonating with that which has our attention.
  6. The causes of our reality are either in the subconscious as memories, programs or lessons we have chosen to learn.
  7. The solution is the removal of inner causes for ourselves and others.
  8. When we free ourselves from any aspects that are contributing to what is happening – then what is happening is less a function of us and more of others’ own lessons.
  9. Freedom from memories and programs allows inspiration and enlightenment to come.
  10. The solution is love for others and ourselves.
  11. This is the goal of life – a road to enlightenment.




A possible phrasing for Ho’oponopono would be:


Dear ____________ (Person, situation, attribute, animal, society, group of persons etc.)


I realize that I am a co-contributor to this common reality.


I ask forgiveness for anything in me that might be contributing to this situation.


I thank you for all of the opportunities for growth that you have given me until now.


I love you.


I love myself.


I release you from the need to be this way any more for my evolution.


I thank the Divine for removing from me anything that might be contributing to this reality.