The ultimate question in all of our psychological search is “what is my lesson here?” ” What do I need to learn from this situation which is limiting my happiness or my effective functioning?” Throughout the book, we have presented you with various situations which we have observed throughout the years which cause pain and suffering for us as individuals and as couples. In this chapter we will learn a method for discovering what our lessons are in those situations. The key to discovering what we need to learn is the faith that everything which happens to us is a result of a process called mirroring, sympathetic attunement, resonance or projection. This means that whatever we are experiencing from the outside world, and especially through the behavior of those close to us, is a mirroring, a reflection, a sympathetic resonance with, or a projection of, something that is in me. My beliefs, emotions, expectations, fears etc. are mirroring, reflecting, projecting or resonating in my external world creating the behaviors and events which I experience. Those events, behaviors or situations which cause us to feel unpleasant feelings, are specifically mirroring parts of our self which are ripe and ready to be transformed. This is a very powerful tool for self discovery because it gives us a very clear understanding of what we need to change while simultaneously freeing us from negative feelings towards the others. We realize that we our selves attract the behaviors and events which create our reality. It is through exactly those stimuli that we will be motivated to evolve out of our old limiting beliefs into new beliefs, more aligned with the truths of our real spiritual nature. What we are saying will not be accepted by many people. It is a philosophy based on the following basic tenants (fig. 23). Continue reading “A36 Life’s Lessons: We often wonder what we have to learn in relationship to certain behaviors which upset us. This article describes a method for discovering our lessons”
