Disappointment – Disillusionment – Discouragement

A wise teacher once said, ” No appointments, no disappointments.”

We experience these somewhat similar emotions when we have created expectations concerning what we will receive from others, God, life or even from ourselves. We might also feel such emotions concerning our own abilities or efforts when we are unable to achieve the goals we desire.

We feel this way when things do not happen the way we expected, or more often, when others are not who we expected them to be. We develop expectations, and then feel cheated when we they are not fulfilled.

Also, when we do not achieve the results we desire, we feel disappointed and disillusioned in ourselves, others or God.

When we succumb to such feelings, we often give up making any further effort, which in turn obstructs our growth.

Positive alternatives to disappointment and disillusionment could be:

1. Understand that we are all in a process of evolution and that no one is perfect.
It is unreasonable to expect of demand perfection from ourselves or others. We would not be here in this evolutionary process if we did not have much to improve.

2. Faith in the flow of life.
There is a wisdom greater than ours. We usually want to get our desired results immediately if not “yesterday”. We need to learn that change, manifestation and creation are usually slow organic processes like a plant growing. There are, however, moments of quantum leaps.

3. Confidence that with patience, practice and perseverance, we can manifest the changes we seek.
We can develop greater trust in our ability to manifest our goals and life purpose with or without the help of specific person.

4. Greater self-sufficiency will allow us to need less from the other and thus not be so dependent on them, expecting so much from them. When we feel secure, worthy and fulfilled within our selves we need much less from others and experience disappointment less frequently.

5. A larger sense of time, in which we realize that, any efforts made for less than fifty years, are actually small in relationship to the immensity of our being.

It is important that we do not allow such feelings of disappointment to diminish our efforts towards creating a better life for ourselves, our loved ones, society and the world as whole.

Understand and accept the present limitations of your universe as you use them as a stepping stone to move out of and beyond them.


(Adapted from the “The Psychology of Happiness” by Robert Najemy available at http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0971011605/holisticharmo-20 and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/psychofhappiness.html. This book and other writings can be viewed at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com where you can also download FREE articles and e-books.)

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