You may see someone you know in Anthony – perhaps even yourself.

Anthony plays the role of “the savior.” He feels responsible for just about everyoneΥs reality. He believes he must rescue them and keep them well and happy. . He feels he has failed in his “role”, and cannot rest, as long as someone he feels responsible for is not well and happy. Others easily use or control him by making him feel responsible for the fact that they are not well or happy.
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Anna does whatever she is asked to do even when she doesn’t want to do it.

Feeling mistreated, she grumbles, complains and bursts out in anger every so often because of her accumulated resentment. Although she feels suppressed, she finds it impossible to say “No”.
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Katherine is very conscientious, a hard worker and reliable in all cases.

At work and at home, she can be depended on to get things done. She often stays overtime, usually alone at the office in order to get her work done.

When she gets home, she immediately immerses herself in cooking, cleaning, washing dishes, etc. Although the others are home even before she is, they do not even think of helping out. Katherine will do all this.
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We present you with a brief outline of some basic points necessary to tend to in order to create a harmonious and loving relationship.
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We continue here to discuss aspects of a mature relationship.
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A divorce, separation or, in general, any loss of an important relationship is a painful experience… Such pain can seriously diminish our peace and happiness. We can, however, use this inner discomfort for our spiritual benefit.
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Fanny lost her desire for sexual contact early in her marriage.

This has become a serious problem for her husband Dennis. Although he tries not to take it personally, he cannot help feeling rejected and demeaned as a man. Also, his biological needs cause him to suffer, especially at night.
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Throughout 30 years of working with couples and groups, I have observed that women have the following complaints about men.
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When we do not get what we want from our relationships, we often feel hurt, abused, rejected, disappointed, bitter and angry.

We then have a choice to remain in our negativity or seek to use this as an opportunity for learning more about ourselves and contacting a deeper source of security, self-worth, inner fulfillment and love within ourselves.
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Although each gender tends to express itself quite differently, most philosophical teachings agree that the soul is neither male nor female. As souls, we incarnate into a gender in order to learn through that experience. Through our experimentation with the various qualities of each sex we are seeking to experience our true whole self.
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