Robert’s Perception

May 11, 2016

Robert’s Perception

Dear Friends,
Robert Elias Najemy, after 45 years of spiritual inquiry, writing and teaching, has decided to share his perception of reality in response to your questions, dilemmas and thoughts.
His will respond to your written questions and thoughts in video form on youtube.
The process is this.
You send an email to with the following data.
1. Name (Robet will refer to the first name and other data here in answer the question. Thus, if you prefer not to be know, then use a false name but not the name of a real person that you know. Please be truthful about the rest of the data, as his response will consider those factors.)
2. Male ______ Female______
3. Age _____
4. Country __________
5. Profession ____________________________
6. Family situation, Married _____ Single ______ Separated______ , Widowed_______, Other ________
7. Children, ____ Number, ______Ages
8. (The email to which you would like to be informed of that his perception has been uploaded.)
Your question must be limited to 90 words only.
This text is 270 words so it must be much less that this.
Robert may not answer some questions, but that would be only in very exceptional cases. H will not answer hypothetical questions.
You will receive an email with the address on youtube where you can see the answer to your questions possibly along with answers to questions and thoughts sent in by others. As he is extremely busy, some answers may take some time to appear. You will be informed when they do.
You are welcome to send in questions at any time.
Be well.


May 20, 2013



Dearest Friends and Trainees.

May this find you well and happy.

We are happy that you have completed stage 1 of our Holistic Life Coach Training and are now interested in the second stage.

Until now the second stage was comprised of our paperback book on Energy Psychology and 14 videos from Robert Elias Najemy and another 29 videos from Gary Craig which were are gift. In addition to this, you received an email each week guiding you how to study the book and the videos.  The suggested donation for stage 2 was until now S 190 for all this.

In order to simplify the training and make it much more economical for you and also for us, by eliminating the cost of coping and printing and shipping all of those 35 discs and book to various parts of the world, we have uploaded it all to the internet and can send you the links so that you can download the ebook and view and or download the videos from the internet.

Thus the suggestion donation for the stage 2 is now only $ 50. (The videos by Gary Craig are a gift.)

Thus by donating only $ 50 for stage 2, you will receive the links for

A. The ebook on Energy Psychology by Robert

B. The links for the following videos by Robert

1.  A basic 2.5 hour explanation about EFT at a seminar in the USA.

2. An explanation of how to do EFT for Victims of Hurricane Katrina and other victims of Traumatic experiences.

3. A short version cut from the above video – with only the employment of EFT

4. The first hour of a four hour abridged version of a weekend seminar on how to employ EFT for various goals.

5. The second hour of a four hour abridged version.

5a. A very small video with a quicker way to do EFT.

6. The third hour of a four hour abridged version.

7. The fourth hour of a four hour abridged version.

8. The first four hours of the total seminar – unabridged.

9. The second four hours of the total seminar – unabridged.

10. The third four hours of the total seminar – unabridged.

11. The fourth four hours of the total seminar – unabridged.

12.  The first video of a seminar on how to employ EFT on relationship problems.

13. The second video of a seminar on how to employ EFT on relationship problems.

14. The third video of a seminar on how to employ EFT on relationship problems.


C. The free links for Gary Craigs series

1. The Basics of  EFT 15 videos

2. The Ultimate Therapist series 13 videos

Thus from now on you can choose between the internet version of Stage 2 which is only $ 50 or the hard copy version which will be sent to you home with is $ 190.

Let us know which version you prefer and make your donation at.

This will start on October along with stage 1 and Stage 3 of the Holistic Harmony Life Coach training.


May you be well.

Introductory Materials for Life Coaches

January 13, 2012

The Prerequisites for Becoming a Holistic Harmony Life Coach

If we really want to help people regardless of our credentials whether as a psychologist, counselor, life coach, doctor or friend we will need to as much as possible embody the following (we are using the word subject in the place of the words patient or client):

1. Care for the other and sincerely desire to help him or her. The subject will feel if we really care or not.

2. Accept whatever we hear and have an open mind. We must be able to hear that the other has murdered someone without judging him. The degree to which the other can open himself is dependent on how accepting he perceives us.

3. See what others call ΪevilΜ as weakness and ignorance and fear rather than as evil. Ignorance and misinterpretation of our true nature leads to a wide variety of ego-centered and often destructive behaviors.

4. Study and understand the functioning of the mind by observing ourselves and others and by studying what already has been discovered by the sciences of psychology, sociology, philosophy and religion.

5. Keep clearly in mind that our work is to reconnect him/her with inner strength and guidance, not make him/her dependent on us.

6. Be open to the unique ways in which each individual grows and heals himself. Do not be so caught up in systems or labels or specific procedures or in what you know, so that you cannot respond to this unique individual in his/her own specific way.

7. Employ only the techniques that you yourself have experienced a number of times. Only then can you really understand this technique and know when to use it and how to handle any crises which may be provoked by it.

8. Practice what you teach. Although this role does not allow us to teach, we occasionally do so through our behavior or attitudes, or by making suggestions or expressing perceptions or life philosophies. We, ourselves should live these ideals that we are expressing.

9. Be simple, honest, humble and admit when you do not know the answer, or feel confused or cannot help.

10. Be ready to give time and energy even without payment when necessary. Supporting another human being who is in need is not a product to be sold.

11. Learn to be sensitive as to when to push the subject towards discovering or breaking through and when to give him space to prepare himself/herself, or live in his/her illusory security. This sensitivity must also be learned in relationship to our own personal process.

12. Keep up your own evolutionary self-knowledge process in ways which suit you.

13. Become very proficient in active listening as this is the backbone of this whole system.

14. Know all the techniques well, or do not use them.

15. Refer the client to others when you cannot help, either because you do not have enough time to help properly, or you cannot be objective with this person, or when the problem is beyond your ability to help.

16. Never interfere in the person?s private life, suggesting that he/she should get divorced or leave his/her family or get an abortion. Just support him/her in choosing from his/her own options, without projecting your own needs or feelings.

17. Keep total confidentiality – secrecy concerning whatever others share with you.

18. Those who are spiritually oriented may want to pray for guidance in every word and action, so that our every move shall be for the other?s benefit and not for our affirmation or security.

Perhaps you would like to add other prerequisites that come to your mind and send them to us.


CHAPTER 1 (From the book The Psychology of Happiness by Robert Elias Najemy)

This chapter is given in order to enable you to understand more clearly the basic premises behind our Holistic Harmony Life Coach approach.

A Change in Attitude

I was sitting on a bench in the National Park in the center of Athens, Greece while three children played nearby. They were playing “basketball”, trying to throw a ball into a garbage can. The older boy, about seven years old, had thrown the ball in four times, and his young girlfriend had thrown it in twice. His little sister, however, who looked to be about five years old, had not been able to make even a single basket. The game continued with great earnestness, with exciting joys and devastating disappointments. Every time they tossed the ball into the can, they immediately looked over to see if I had been watching. I became very emotionally involved without saying a word, but was rather worried about the attitude of the youngest girl, who still hadn’t managed to put the ball in. The score was now 6 to 5 to 0.

I noticed she was more concerned about the fact that she wasn’t getting the ball in the can and the disappointment involved, than she was in concentrating on the aim of her toss. She had come to believe that she couldn’t do it, and didn’t even take the time to seriously look at the basket she was shooting for. Instead, she was already prepared to show her disappointment, which usually consisted of jumping up and down two or three times with both feet, and banging herself on the head. Sometimes she spun around in a circle (which, by the way, was similar to the way her brother acted when he was successful, only his hands would be raised in the air in triumph).

The little girl was becoming more and more desperate, even resorting to kicking the ball away, so the others would have to chase after it. That made them angry and they retaliated by telling her how bad she was at the game. At other times, she would grab the ball and run away with it, making her brother chase after her and forcibly snatch the ball away from her.

I was practically in tears by now, although not one word had passed between us. I then closed my eyes and focussed my thoughts on the little girl, mentally communicating to her that she must concentrate and think positively. I continued doing this for about three minutes. Then I opened my eyes and kept this idea in my mind and my eyes on her. Her next try was another failure, but she didn’t seem quite so upset.

The very next time she did something completely different. She took the ball in her hands, and looked at it closely, and began to talk to it with conviction and authority, telling it that it MUST go into the basket and that if it didn’t, it would be punished. Then she looked lovingly at the ball and kissed it, turned toward the basket and threw it directly in.

I was so happy for her that I could hardly remain seated. I actually started to cry. The little girl continued with this more positive technique for the rest of the game, and the final score was 10 to 8 to 6. My little friend had 8.

Now, it is not difficult to understand the point. The little girl lacked confidence and concentration, and because of this, she set herself up for failure. When she failed, she became even more convinced of her inability, and set herself up physically and psychologically for each successive failure. She stopped making a serious effort. She simply went up to the line with failure in mind and threw the ball without trying.

Perhaps my concentration and prayers were picked up by her subconscious. Perhaps they weren?t. Then, for some reason, she changed her behavior and employed more concentration and optimism. She told the ball what it had to do and she became very sure of herself. The ball went directly in, guided by her positive and convinced state of mind.

When the ball went into the can, the little girl?s opinion of herself completely changed; now she was a success. Her entire physical reality changed, and she made more baskets in the remaining time than the other two children combined.

Children can alter their reality relativity easily through a change of attitude and behavior because of their less rigid belief system. For us adults, who have many more years of conditioning, such a change might take more time. But it can be done and more importantly, in many cases, it must be done, if we are to enjoy a life of happiness, success and growth.

Many of us set ourselves up for failure because of our habitual negative thinking and basic beliefs concerning our impotency. In the following pages, we will discuss the techniques by which we may recondition our thought processes and change our reality


Most of us would like a happier, healthier, more harmonious reality. In order to improve our reality, we must understand the mechanisms of its creation. Most of us feel that “things simply happen in our lives” or that we just feel ?this way? or ?that way.” Few of us actually investigate how our reality is created.

We might say that our reality is constructed of two basic factors:

1. What is happening or has happened.

2. What we believe, and consequently how we feel about ourselves, in relationship to what has happened, is happening or will happen.

This belief system or programming, which creates our subjective perception of reality, is a result of our past experience.

A description of how elephants are trained will help us understand the relationship between our past, our beliefs and our reality.


Elephants born in captivity are restrained by a chain that attaches one leg to a metal spike driven into the ground. This prevents them from roaming. They become accustomed to the fact that, as long as the chain and spike are next to them, they are unable to move.

As they grow older, their minds become programmed. When they see the spike and chain, they “believe” and accept that they will not be able to move. They become so conditioned that when their owners place a small rope and wooden peg next to them, they make no efforts to step away from it, because they “believe” they are unable to.

In truth, their actual power as adults is so great that they could easily pull up a chain and spike of any size. Their programming or “belief,” however, allows this tiny rope and wooden peg to limit their movement.

We are all very much like these elephants. We allow the weaknesses, fears and rejection we experienced as children to program us into a life in which we lack power, peace, love and happiness. We become controlled by false childhood assumptions we have made about our ability, strength and self worth.

We can move away from these “pegs” of self-limitation, but we must chose to do so.

This is a very simple description of an extremely complicated and intricate process, which we will analyze in greater details throughout this book.


The first factor in the creation of our reality is called the stimulus. This is an event that we observe or perhaps even fanaticize or project.

1. Some external stimuli include events such as the following: We receive love, admiration, attention, gifts, money or success at some effort, or we are rejected, falsely accused, suffer a loss of someone or something important to us, or experience failure at some endeavor.

2. We might also be affected by internal stimuli, such as thoughts about the past or future.

3. Our emotions or thoughts may become stimuli for other emotions, such as when we feel anger or self-rejection when we observe that we have allowed ourselves to become aggressive or fearful.

4. Other more subtle stimuli might be the state of our hormones, chemical balance or energy state. We have all experienced days when we were more emotionally vulnerable, perhaps due to low energy. This is especially but not exclusively so for women, because of hormonal changes.


As these stimuli pass into the mind, it evaluates them seeking to determine whether they are supportive of or endangering to our basic needs. 1. If our subconscious programming determines them to be supportive, we feel relaxed, happy and loving.

2. If we conclude that they are endangering, we experience fear as well as and a wide variety of other emotions, such as pain, disillusionment, bitterness, injustice, depression, jealousy, envy, anger, hate, etc.

Our emotional state constitutes the greater portion of our subjective personal reality. It is not so much what happens in our life that creates our reality but how we perceive and react to what happens or to what we imagine is happening or will happen.

This is the first basic premise of what we might call the “Psychology of Happiness” or the Psychology of Evolution or of Transformation. We create our own reality by the way we interpret and react to the events and other stimuli mentioned above. Many might think of situations in which this might seem false or difficult to perceive, however, deep examination of this concept will prove that it is true in all cases. Our belief system creates our reality.


If we want to be happy, we need to transcend our automatic, mechanical emotional reactions. We need to understand why we automatically react in certain ways, such as with fear or anger, and how we can begin to free ourselves from undesirable emotional responses. Otherwise we are not free. We are under the control of the programming of our childhood, our past, our lack of clarity, and our lack of awareness. We are ?asleep? to our real personal nature, and the true nature of the reality surrounding us. This book is intended to serve as a ?wake-up call?.

We are in a state of evolution from our animal nature through our human nature to our divine nature. In reality, our essential being is beyond this temporary body and mind. We are aspects of Divine Creation, and thus we embody love, knowledge and power. Mistaken conditioning has caused us to lose contact with this inner nature.


The story about the lion cub more graphically describes this process. Once there was a great lioness who went hunting with her newborn cub. While chasing and attacking a flock of sheep, the she-lion made a wrong move, fell off a cliff and died. The cub was left without a mother and grew up in the midst of the sheep. As the years passed, the cub became a full-grown lion, but it was instinctually conditioned to behave as a sheep. It ate grass, made a bleating sound, and developed a fear of all other animals, just like the sheep.

One day, another lion attacked the flock, and in the chase, was shocked to see the ridiculous sight of a full grown lion running away with the sheep bleating “bah bah” in fear.

He caught up to the sheepish lion, and asked, ?What are you doing? Why are you acting in this ridiculous way? You a great, powerful lion acting like a lowly powerless sheep? What has come over you? You should be ashamed of yourself.?

The sheepish lion explained that he was a sheep, and that the flock had taught him to fear and bleat and run in horror from the powerful lions.

The adult lion took the sheepish lion down to the river and asked him to look at the reflection of his own face. He saw that he was like the lion and not like the sheep. The lion then woke up from his ignorance and discovered his previously ignored inner courage, strength and majesty.

We are like the sheepish lion. The sheep represent our human nature, our personality, which moans, fears, complains and worries. The Lion is the spiritual aspect of our being, which is a source of great power, wisdom, creativity, goodness and love. Great spiritual teachers have appeared throughout history with the same message of our ?LION NATURE?, the untapped spiritual power and greatness that dwells within us.


All our problems are simply the result of our mistaken identity. We have learned to suppress what is naturally good within us. We have learned to mistrust others and compete against them, rather than cooperate and share with them. We have learned to be neurotic and fearful of new persons and situations. We have lost the ability to be open and loving, as we were when we were children. We have been taught that we must fight for what we need even at the others? expense.

Such beliefs have been instilled into us, as a way of ?being smart?, or ?being successful.? Many of us who have followed this philosophy find ourselves isolated, secluded and lonely. We may have everything that society programmed our minds to believe was important, but do we have love, health, peace of mind, self-understanding, harmonious relationships or happiness?

One natural disaster, such as an accident, fire, earthquake, war, or death of a loved one, can destroy our happiness instantaneously when it is based on external factors.


This in no way means we should not seek to create the reality we desire for ourselves, our loved ones and our community. It means we need to make our best effort towards a better life, but without attachment to the results of our endeavor. This requires a delicate balance. Some of us make very little effort to improve our selves or our lives, and thus we obtain limited results. Others try extremely hard, but are so greatly attached to the result that they experience anxiety, fear and stress.

Attachment to some particular source of happiness is often our main obstacle toward the happiness we seek. In this book, we shall learn to understand which attachments limit our happiness and how we can transform them into preferences.

Chapter from the book
The Psychology of Happiness by Robert Elias Najemy

We remind you that sample life lessons are given in order to enable you to understand more clearly the concept of life lessons which is an extremely important aspect of life coaching.

Our main question for each is Ϊwhat do I need to learn here in order to feel better or solve my problem or become more effective in creating what I really want in my life?

This is the greatest gift we can give our selves, our clients or friends.


You can view 52 of these in the Psychology of Happiness and Relationships of Conscious Love by Robert.

Life Story no. 2


John and Barbara have three children in junior and senior high school. Their house is the site of frequent battles concerning how much the children need to study and what grades are acceptable. The main battle is with their youngest child, Peter, who refuses to study. The more they pressure him, the more rebellious he becomes. He now perceives them to be his enemies, and a great power struggle takes place between them.

Peter lacks self-confidence and self-acceptance, and is tired of being compared to his older sisters. He would like to have good grades, but the fear of trying and not succeeding is unbearable for him, and thus, he prefers not to try at all.

He would much rather play at the computer or search the net than study subjects he feels have nothing to do with life. He prefers to partake in activities he can control and succeed at, rather than those which hold the risk of failure and create anxiety.

John and Barbara attach great deal of importance to grades, success, economic status, and most of all, to how they and their children compare to other families and what others think of them.

They find it difficult to decide how much responsibility they have for Peter’s future, and whether it is their duty to pressure him. Still, what creates even more anxiety for them is the fact that they are programmed to believe his “failure” is their “failure.” They measure their self worth as persons and parents by their children?s grades and accomplishments.

They are ashamed to admit to others that Peter is not doing well. They feel lessened in other’s eyes.

Peter realizes this and is hurt by the fact that they are allowing what other people think to be more important than how he feels. He feels misunderstood, rejected, and unloved. His parents feel the same.

He needs to be accepted and loved for the person he is, regardless of his grades. His parents do love him, but their fears concerning his future, their own self worth as parents, and what others think of them, prevent them from expressing their love without inhibitions.

Peter would like to make them happy, but his fear of failure and need to protect his freedom and self worth by rebelling against their pressure, become obstacles in his ability to do so.

They all need to analyze and free themselves from the beliefs and attachments preventing them from experiencing and expressing the love they have for each other.

Belief Analysis

Their beliefs cause them to be caught up in this situation.

John and Barbara might be limited by some of the following beliefs:

1. Our child is our creation. We are totally responsible for what he becomes.

2. Our self worth depends on how he turns out: his grades, his health, his success, his behavior, etc.

3. Others will judge us according to our children?s success or failure.

4. Our self worth is dependent upon what others think and say about us.

5. Our child will be able to succeed and be happy only of he obtains high grades and a university degree.

6. This is a difficult world and we must protect and prepare our child for it.

7. Later in life, our child might hold us accountable for the fact that we didn’t push him enough.

Peter might be limited by some of the following beliefs:

1. I am not smart; I cannot succeed at school.

2. My self worth is dependent upon my grades.

3. My self worth is dependent upon how I measure up to my sisters and others.

4. My parents will love me more if I have high grades and less if I do not.

5. I will probably not be happy or successful in life if I don?t get good grades.

6. I am a failure and no one loves me.

7. I am living in a prison and have no freedom to live my life I as I chose.

8. My parents want to control me in order to satisfy their own needs.

By adjusting their belief system, this family could solve many of their problems.

John and Barbara might find peace in some of the following beliefs:

1. Our child is God’s creation and has within him the blueprints of his life. We are here to aid him in his search for himself.

2. Our child is like a seed that knows what it needs to become. We are here simply to water the seed and nourish it, not to tell him how to live his life.

3. Our self worth depends solely on our motives and effort to help our child, not on the result.

4. We are worthy of love and respect regardless of our children?s grades.

5. We are worthy of love and respect regardless of what others think or say.

6. Our child has the ability and inner guidance to create success and happiness regardless of his education.

7. Life gives us and our children exactly what each of us needs for his/her growth.

8. We offer love, guidance and support to our child, but allow him to make his own choices and grow through living the consequences of those choices.

9. We understand and respect our child?s fears and seek to help him believe in himself.

Peter might be helped by some of the following beliefs:

1. I am intelligent and totally capable of succeeding in school and life.

2. I deserve love and respect regardless of my grade level.

3. I am special and unique from my sisters and all others.

4. I will create success and happiness in my life.

5. I am worthy of love and respect exactly as I am.

6. I understand my parents? anxiety and need to pressure me to study, and feel their love behind those actions.

7. I understand their fears and accept them as they are.

8. Real freedom is the freedom to intelligently direct my energy in ways that benefit my life and future.

9. My parents love me and are trying to help me in their own way.


The Flow of Transformation

In this introductory text we are sharing with you a general plan we use in supporting others in their self-healing or self-actualization process. Let us distinguish between the two, although they are often simultaneous and overlapping.

We call this process self-healing when we are seeking to solve problem.

We call it self-actualization when we simply want to increase our effectiveness, productivity creativity or our ability to manifest goals.

1. We begin with Active Listening where our goal is to determine and clarify the purpose for which we are meeting with this person. We are seeking to enable the client to clarify goals, needs, desires, options and beliefs so that he or she can make conscious and more enlightened decisions.

Optional: 2. The next stage is one which we will not be able to teach you totally over the Internet, but which you can study it in your local area through any Yoga Teachers? training program or other program for self-healing.

What we do at this stage is create a stress releasing and revitalization program. We help the person with exercises, breathing techniques, relaxation, cleansing techniques, massage, healthy nutrition, vitamins, fasting, spiritual therapy, herbs, Bach remedies and creative activities.

This is a process allows him/her to rebuild the nervous system, mind and energy without requiring deep psychological introspection. We help him /her find inner strength, without touching the subconscious. It is a parallel process.

3. The next stage is Analysis. We employ a wide variety of analysis techniques including: Active listening, keeping a diary, questionnaires, a work book, written affirmations, inner research techniques, writing letters or the history of childhood experiences as well as other methods. Here we seek to identify the emotions and beliefs which are obstructing one?s health, happiness, achievement or growth.

4. We can then employ Energy Psychology techniques such as EFT, TAT, TFT, EMDR in order to heal the emotional energy field of disturbances and negative emotions.

5. The next step is to proceed to positive re-programming. We teach the person Positive Projection Techniques. We might suggest books or cassettes for more positive thinking. We can create a personal cassette for him /her in which we place messages and affirmations, specific to his/her needs.

We also have prerecorded cassettes for Self-confidence, Self-Acceptance, Light Healing etc.

6. After this, if the person?s balance allows and if it is necessary, we proceed deeper by applying relaxations and other investigative techniques that effect the subconscious.


Life Story no. 4


Mary?s father was an abusive alcoholic. Her husband Tony is following in his footsteps. As is quite common, Mary has selected a husband who is simply a continuation of her father. When Tony is not drunk, he is self-demeaning and quiet. He prefers to be at home and avoids contact with others. When he is drunk, he becomes aggressive, violent and threatening. He is verbally abusive toward her and the children, and has on a few occasions, become physically violent.

Tony does not love himself, so he naturally feels that Mary and the children do not love him either. His parents were abusive to him and he is unconsciously carrying on the tradition. He does love his wife and children, and feels tremendous remorse for his behavior, although he denies it to others. It is too painful for him to see himself. He is self-destructive and in denial.

Mary feels hurt, disappointed, abused, humiliated and angry. She is also very much into the roles of the “savior” and the “victim”. She is a “savior” because she knew Tony had this behavioral problem and thought she could save him. She is a “victim” because she feels unjustly abused by him and life. She also wonders at times if God is punishing her for something she has done.

Mary has not been able to communicate with Tony. When he is sober, he denies the problem, although, occasionally, he will ask forgiveness. When he is intoxicated, he is blind and deaf with anger.

Mary feels responsible for healing Tony and feels that she has failed. Both of them and also the children are suffering in this situation.

What might Mary?s lessons be in this situation?


1. To realize she deserves respect and love.

2. To free herself from childhood experiences in which she was conditioned in some way to believe she is not worthy of love, and affection, happiness or freedom.

3. To learn to love and accept Tony despite his weakness and negativity.

4. To see that he is suffering and to seek to help him without losing her self-respect, and without indulging him, thus, allowing him to be responsible for his own therapy.

5. To free herself from the idea that she is responsible for creating his reality or finding his cure.

6. To allow him to maintain total responsibility for both his unhappiness and his therapy.

7. To realize she has the right to be happy even if he is not.

8. Not to take what he does personally, to realize that her self worth is not diminished by his actions, and to understand that the problem is his.

9. To search for what she may not be giving him, which he may need, such as love, acceptance and affection.

10. To relieve herself of the role of the parent or savior.

11. To learn to express her needs and rights clearly, lovingly and assertively.

12. To overcome any shame she feels toward others because of his problem. To free herself from worrying about how others perceive her and her family.

13. To behave assertively (not threateningly) so as to inspire respect from him and others.

14. To work on her relationship with her father so as to forgive him and find her own self-respect and inner strength.

The following beliefs which night help them out of this situation

Maria may be helped by some of the following beliefs:

1. I love and accept others and help them while allowing them to retain total responsibility for their reality.

2. I help others more with my happiness, than with my pain.

3. I am worthy of love, affection and respect exactly as I am.

4. Life gives me exactly what I need every moment for my evolutionary process.

5. I assertively and lovingly protect my rights and needs.

6. I am worthy of love and respect regardless of others? behavior.


1. I am a creation of the Divine.

2. I deserve love and respect exactly as I am.

3. I accept and love myself as I am.

4. I deserve and create a happy and harmonious reality.

5. I love my family, want them to be happy and will behave accordingly.

6. I am an expression of divine energy on earth. I am good and lovable being.

7. I recognize and admit my problems as I simultaneously seek to solve them.

Of course, Tony will probably also need to participate in a detoxification and group support program such as Alcoholics Anonymous.

This is the last life lesson we will be giving in this introduction.

You can view 52 of these in the Psychology of Happiness and Relationships of Conscious Love by Robert.


The Prerequisites to Change

The following is a simplified description of a process which can be employed on ourselves and or others in order to facilitate happiness, harmony, growth and improved relationships.

a) The first step is to accept ourselves as were are. This is important for us as individual and even more as life coaches because we cannot impart this to others if we do not embody it in ourselves. If we start with the attitude of ?I will kill my Ego, I will uproot itΜ, we will start a war with ourselves which we will never win. We will start with ourselves a war that we will never win.

b) The second is to analyze ourselves so as to understand the mental and emotional mechanisms obstructing our happiness and effectiveness on the personal, family, social, and professional levels.

We want to break down our emotional reactions into the parts they are made of; such emotions, reactions, beliefs and programmings as well as childhood, or other, experiences. In this way, we can clearly see how our emotional reality is created.

c) When we will have accomplished this, the next step is to ask, ΪDo I want to keep feeling and reacting in this way and perceiving myself, others and life in this way?Μ Do I want to maintain this mechanism, or do I want to change it?? This is the question that we must always put in active listening.

We must not consider this a given, that the other wants to transform a belief or an emotion. There are many forms of secondary or subconscious benefits that we gain by not being well and happy.

d) Once we have made up our minds that we want to change, we start the process of metamorphosis and then follow a series of techniques mentioned in the previous text.

The prerequisites to change are:

1. Acceptance of ourselves and of our physical, emotional and mental situation as it is.

2. Acceptance to change and move beyond whatever is obstructing our happiness, health or harmonious relationships.

3. Making the effort towards the desired change and dealing with the inner obstacles we might encounter.


Life Story no. 3


Wendy is sure that her husband Mark is having an affair. She has no concrete proof but she just knows it in her heart. She is afraid, deeply hurt and disappointed. She feels rejected, demeaned, betrayed, and quite insecure, not to mention angry.

Mark is not actually having an affair yet, but is interested in another woman. Until now, they have had long conversations, but both are very hesitant to make that step of coming together physically. Mark wants to continue to see Marsha without Wendy. He does not even want her to know about this “contact.” He wants to be with someone who “understands” him.

Wendy frequently complains to Mark about family problems and how she is the victim of this situation in which she is sacrificing her time and her professional satisfaction to be with the children.

She feels hurt that Mark does not appreciate her sacrifice and needs him to show her more love and affection.

Ever since the children were born, it has been difficult for Mark to see Wendy sexually, and she is not receiving the affirmation she needs from him as a woman. She feels used. Also, her incessant nagging makes her even less inviting to him. Now he avoids her, physically and emotionally.

She perceives this as rejection, and now that she suspects he is seeing someone else, her need for affirmation is even greater. She has become increasingly critical, accusing and demanding.

The further she pressures him for attention and love, the more he feels the need to avoid her. The more he avoids her, the more rejected and betrayed she feels.

In her own way, she is pushing him away from her. By not giving her what she needs, he is augmenting her negativity, which then bounces back at him. They are growing further apart and no longer enjoy each other’s company.

Belief Analysis

Both need to look at and transform their belief systems in order to create a more lively and truthful relationship. Each needs to take responsibility for his and her reality. They can help each other create happiness.

Wendy may be limited by some of the following beliefs:

1. My self worth is dependent upon being loved exclusively by my husband.

2. I am not enough for my husband.

3. I am the victim in this situation.

4. A wife should sacrifice her career for her husband.

5. I have lost something important in life by leaving my professional life. I am a victim of social programming.

6. My husband does not love me.

7. If my husband does not love me, I am not worthy

8. I am not safe in the world by myself and especially with the children.

9. I am in danger of being alone.

10. I need my husband in order to feel safe and worthy.

Mark may be limited by some of the following beliefs:

1. My wife doesn?t understand or accept me.

2. When she complains, she is rejecting me and I am demeaned.

3. I cannot feel my self worth when she is rejecting me.

4. My freedom is in danger.

5. I might be happier with someone else.

6. I need someone who accepts me as I am and doesn?t complain.

7. I cannot be happy when suppressed by this family situation.

8. I cannot feel sexual with my wife when she is trying to control me.

9. I cannot see my wife sexually when I think of her as the mother of my children.

Some beliefs which each could develop in order to free up their love and solve the problem:

Wendy might benefit from some of the following beliefs:

1. I am worthy of love and respect regardless of my husband?s interests or behavior.

2. I am a vital and interesting woman, enough for any man.

3. I create my reality and life gives me exactly what I need to learn my next lesson in my growth process.

4. My husband and I have equal rights and responsibilities toward work and the family.

5. Whatever I do with love cannot be a loss. I have lost nothing by giving myself to my children. The highest profession on the planet is that of the mother: our future depends upon it.

6. My husband loves me, but is controlled by inner obstacles towards expressing that love.

7. I am worthy of love and respect regardless of my husband?s feelings or behavior.

8. I am safe in the world as I am.

9. There are millions of beings with whom I can connect if I feel the need.

10. I am safe and worthy in my self.

Mark might benefit from some of the following beliefs:

1. I want to understand and respond lovingly to my wife’s insecurities at this time.

2. I recognize her complaints as an expression of her unfulfilled needs and seek to fulfill them as much as possible.

3. I am worthy of love and respect regardless of my wife?s satisfaction or behavior.

4. I am a free soul.

5. Happiness exists within me and does not come from an outside source.

6. I accept and love myself as I am.

7. I love my family and gladly surrender my other needs for their welfare.

8. When I focus on my wife, I perceive the being I originally loved on all levels, even physically.

9. I love my wife. I want her to be happy and I behave accordingly.

One more life lesson is coming.

You can view 52 of these in the Psychology of Happiness and Relationships of Conscious Love by Robert.


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January 3, 2012

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  • 1 How we can get our point across with models, parables and stories
  • 2 Discovering what we need to Learn from our Close Relationships
  • 3 Overcoming Resistance to change for the better

Seminars in Turkey (In English) Feb 2012

Seminars in Turkey (In English) June 2011

  • 01. An Introduction to Quantum Physics and the Science of Emotions (57 min. , 52 MB)
  • 02. The effect of emotions on Water and People (10 min. , 10 MB)
  • 03. An Introduction to Energy Psychology (27 min. , 27 MB)
  • 04. A Guided Freeze Frame Exercise (10 min. , 10 MB)
  • 05. After Freeze Frame, the EFT Video and our Life coach program (24 min. , 23 MB)
  • 06. How to do EFT (15 min. , 14 MB)
  • 07. Actually doing EFT and finding the Positive belief (71 min. , 65 MB)
  • 08. EFT with positive beliefs and Truths, The Hemisphere balancing exercise for installing positive beliefs and writing our gratitude list (48 min. , 44 MB)
  • 09. The results of Gratitude (5 min. , 4 MB)
  • 10. The gratitude exercise and closing, preparing for dancing (22 min. , 21 MB)

Seminars in English in Turkey

December 18, 2011


In Istanbul Turkey

Here are some suggestions for keeping that energy moving forward..

A. Individually you can do the following:

1. Visit and benefit from our website at

There you will find an abundance of articles, books, ebooks, audio files and videos.

2. I have uploaded the audio files from our weekend seminar to the following link

At the bottom of that page and also this page you will fill find a section titled Seminars in Turkey (In English) Feb 2012

Below that section you will find the links to the various stages of our seminar with the ability to either listen them on line, or download them and listen to them or burn them onto CD’s for yourselves of others. (A few segments are be missing.)

Also, below those mp3 files, you will find a section titled Seminars in Turkey (In English) June 2011

With the lectures and techniques from the previous seminar during June 2012 at Bogazici University on Saturday June 11, 2011. Although a few of the techniques taught are the same, others are not.

You will also want to listen to some of the lectures and techniques from other seminars that are posted for free listening there on the same page.

3. You will soon be able to view the material on Youtube or download it from there at

There you can also view a wide variety of other lectures and seminars,

including a detailed one about EFT at

And also a description of our Life Coach Training at

note: If you know persons who might be interested in our future seminars, then it would be good for them to listen to or view these so that they can be ready to move forward with us.

4. Be sure that you are receiving our newsletters. Sign up at

and also send us an email to with the title Turkey.


1.  Making personal appointments with each other in order to practice the methods you have learned on each other.

  1. Active Listening
  2. EFT
  3. EFT with Choices
  4. EFT with Borrowed Benefits
  5. Brain Balancing with for installing new positive beliefs.
  6. Sedona Method
  7. Ho’oponopono


C. Together again – Live


1. I will be happy to come there (although with my schedule that could probably not be more than twice a year) and we can work on a variety of other subjects. You have a list of the possible seminars on the yellow sheet that you took. (If you need more of those for others, ask Elyan or make copies)


2. You can organize to come here to Greece as a group, perhaps with others from Turkey and other countries for seminars in our wonderful retreat center here near Athens, which is only ten minutes from the sea.

You can see photos from our seminars there at

(A few photos are from our seminars in other locations.)


D. Sharing with others

1. I do not believe in copyrights as all knowledge belongs to the universe and we are not in this for the money, so you are free to make copies of whatever CD’s, DVD’s or even books (although buying books may be cheaper than copying them) and share them with those who might be helped by them. I only ask that you place my name and the website on anything that you copy.

2. Introduce others to these concepts and methods.

Be well in love and light,


Those who choose to, will gradually become proficient in the methods of EFT, TAT, BSFF, WHEE, The Sedona Method, Ho’oponopono, Psych-K, Theta Healing as well as Law of Attraction techniques. In addition to that we will work on the need for self-knowledge and how that can be achieved as well as breathing, meditation and visualization techniques for greater energy and contact with our inner power, wisdom, health, happiness and guidance. Look below for more information on these subjects.

You can find video clips from the seminar at Youtube at:

You are welcome to direct your friends and relatives to these page so that they can benefit from them and evaluate if this is something that suits them so that they can ?catch up? and be ready for future seminars.

Who is Robert Elias Najemy

Robert is the author of 33 books, 600 articles and 500 lectures on Human Harmony recorded on CD and DVD.

You can download for free 100’s of articles and find wonderful ebooks, guidance, mp3 audio and youtube video lectures and at

His books The Psychology of Happiness, Remove Pain with Energy Psychology and six others are available at

As a life coach with 40 years of experience, has trained over 400 Life coaches and now does so over the Internet. Info at:

He has produced over 500 CD?s and DVD?s with an abundance of information or human harmony.

Go to Robert’s pages on Youtube

Robert is a chemical engineer who gave up his profession 45 years ago in order to study human nature and all aspects of human health, happiness, harmony and spiritual development. He has a certificate in Counseling from the Counseling & Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body (UK) and certificates as a practitioner of various forms of Energy Psychology; including Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Tapas Acupuncture Techniques (TAT) and Thought Field Therapy (TFT) and Psych-K.

Robert has developed a six-year self-knowledge seminar, which is taught at his school and has also been recorded and is thus available in other cities. He has trained more than 300 life coaches, 50 of whom now work with him in Athens, Greece and other affiliated centers around Greece and Cyprus.

What is Energy Psychology?

(Note: We will learn these methods gradually of a series of seminars at the rate that the group is able to assimlate them.) In the last 35 years a number of new forms of psychotherapy have become very popular among Life coaches, psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors and many other professionals and even non-professionals who work with human emotional, mental, physical and spiritual harmony.

Just a few of these methods are:
TFT – Thought Field Therapy
EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques
BSFF – Be Set Free Fast
TAT – Tapas Acupressure Technique
EMDR – Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
WHEE – Wholistic Hybrid of EFT and EMDR
Sedona Method
Freeze Frame – from the Hearth Math Institute
Ho?oponopono – from the Spiritual teachers of Hawaii
Psych-K – for balancing the right and left Hemisphere.

(Note: We will learn these methods gradually over a series of seminars at the rate that the group is able to assimlate them.)


These methods generically are called “Energy Psychology” and regardless of their different approaches have some of the following aspects in common.

1. These methods, as a rule, generate quicker and often deeper results than classical psychotherapy, based solely on discussion and analysis.

2. We can employ them personally achieving temporary, and in many cases, permanent freedom from disturbing thoughts, emotions, such as anxiety and their psychosomatic effects on our bodies, minds and life.

3. They are extensively used by professionals – usually in combination with positive visualization – for removing obstacles towards effectively manifesting of goals.

4. We use the concept of SUD – Subject Units of Disturbance, in which we evaluate our distrubance from 0 to 10, where 0 means there is no disturbance at all and 10 means that it is extremely high. In this way, we develop the ability to objectivify the disturbance as something separate from ourselves and have a sense of how much in increases or decreases or whether the problem exists at all.

5. In most methods the first step is to accept whatever we are feeling. Acceptance is basic for freeing up the energy for change. All energy psychology methods are based on the first step of coming into direct contact with emotional disturbance, accepting that it exists and then working with directly with it as an energy pattern in our energy system.

6. The second step is to be willing to let go of the emotion or disturbance.

7. We then focus directly on the emotional or physical disturbance created by that “learned reaction” to that particular stimulus, such as an event, an interaction, a situation, an idea or even a thought in our mind about the past or future.

8. The next step is to do something that changes our energy state while we are focused on the particular emotion, disturbance, physical pain or discomfort, desire or belief. This is done in various ways, depending on the particular technique. Below are some of the possibilities that can be employed alone and also in combination with the others. When any of the below mentioned techniques successfully change our emotional state in relationship to specific stimulus, that then changes how we react emotionally, chemically, hormonally and electronically to that specific situation. This means that our hypothalamus excretes different peptides and our brain creates new neuro-net synapses in relation to the same stimuli, which until now disturbed us. When this is done a number of times, this new more positive perception and reaction become our new norm. Here are some of the ways in which we can change the energy while focused on that, which bothers us.

a. Tapping on specific acupuncture points on the head, face, fingers and upper chest that cause a movement and alteration of the present energy structure we are focused on. The habituated energy structure is forced to change because of the movement in energy caused by the tapping on these specific points. This is used specifically in the methods TFT, EFT, BSFF and WHEE.

b. Placing our hands in a focused way on certain acupuncture points and energy centers also causes energy flow and a change in our energy state and emotions. This is used in the TAT and Psych-K methods and can be in the Sedona Method.

c. Moving the eyes to the right and left or tapping on the right and left sides of the body can have the same effect. Used in EFT, EMDR and WHEE.

d. Breathing with a specific focus creates a similar result. (Freeze Frame, Ho?oponopono, Sedona.)

e. Changing our emotional state and heart rhythms by focusing on someone or something we love or feel gratitude towards also creates a change in our energy structure. (Freeze Frame, Ho?oponopono and Sedona.)

f. Bringing to mind or verbally expressing affirmations and alternative perceptions of the stimulus that is disturbing us can also change our state. This can also be done in combination with tapping or rubbing certain points or holding our hands over certain energy centers.

g. Simply letting go of what we feel as well as the needs that create our feelings is used in the Sedona Method and Ho?oponopono.

h. Positive visualization of how we would like to be and react towards certain situations can be used in conjunction with any of the above – usually after the emotional disturbance has been reduced or eliminated.

9. The next step for some of these methods is to now, having reduced or eliminated the old energy response, to program a new one. This is called Reprocessing in the EMDR and WHEE methods, and Choices in EFT. It is also used in Psych-K, TAT and Sedona. In this stage we now seek to introduce a new way of perceiving that, which until now was disturbing us. With these forms of energy psychology we enable ourselves and our recipients to dissolve the old faulty energy fields so that we are now free to install our new updated version of reality on the hard drive of our mind.

All of these methods can be combined with each other and all other forms of psychological, mental and spiritual support including analysis, cognitive therapy, behavioral therapy, psychodrama, gestalt, dream analysis, regressions to the past, hypnosis and spiritual study as well as all forms of energy work such as massage, physical therapy, reiki, spiritual healing an reconnection. In addition many thousands of doctors and psychiatrists around the world are now using them in their healing practices, as you can verify at the following internet addresses.

Here are some web addresses for further investigation of these methods.

13. More Effective Communication

Go to the following address for a detailed description of what we mean by Energy Psychology.

You will find articles on the following subjects:

1. What is Energy Psychology?

2. View Case Histories of those helped and healed with EFT

3. What is TAT?

4. What is BSFF?

5. What is the Freeze Frame technique from Heart Math?

6. About the Sedona Method

7. About Positive Visualization

8. TAT & BSFF for Forgiveness.

9. Sedona for Love

10. The Chemistry of Love

11. The Science of Emotions

12. Quantum Physics and our Reality

Testimonials from Students

Dear Robert, 
I would just like you to know that this course has truly been a life-changing event for me. 
In working through the lessons I have learned so much about myself, and others. The way I view things, how my beliefs were created and so much more. I truly do not believe I would have learned this much or been able to work through so much without the benefit of these lessons. I feel more peace than I have felt in years and it continues to get better. The way I relate to the whole world has been improved. Learning how to pass this gift to others who may need it is a great blessing that I don’t have sufficient words to express. 
Your patience and your support is wonderful. As busy as you are with your work, the other students in this course and everything else you have going on, I have still felt as if I alone have truly mattered. Any courses I have ever taken, any professional I have worked one on one with, has never seemed to care or take the personal interest as you have. The comments, suggestions, and questions of this class have been at your highest priority and it shows in every new lesson throughout this course. Thank you. Thank God for you and the work that you do.

Best Regards,
Tracy Togliatti (USA)


Robert Najemy’s Life Coach training, has helped me to put greater order in my thinking, my emotions and realize how much my beliefs are affecting the way I feel and act in life. His training is exceptionally well structured, it takes you from A. to B. without leaving anything unclear or unexplained.
Each lesson provides an opportunity to deepen up the theory and is always accompanied with a chance to put it into practice. I felt throughout the training, that Robert was there for me to provide the help that I needed at times. His advice is always very supportive and fostering to my self-confidence.
Thanks again, with my love,

Marina. (Canada)


I have found the course excellent in terms of content as well as structure. It treats the entire subject of human relationships – and why they fail, and what can be done to enhance them – in a manner that is direct and concise while at the same time not lacking in any way. It is a revelation, in more ways than one, of the cause-and-effect nature of the workings of the human mind that produce different kinds of realities or relationship situations. Understanding the subject and the process, and putting it into practice, leads to greater harmony. It actually expands your consciousness!!! Thanks once again, Robert.

Vivian (Indian)


I think this course is great. It gives a chance to work on ourselves and help ourselves and others in a very structured way, guiding us from where to start and what to do next. It also explains in a very thorough way what happens in every one of us and where the problems often lie. I especially like all the different questions that we can put to ourselves and others, as it really leads to a greater clarification and self-knowledge. I’m very satisfied with the course and eagerly wait for follow-up. Love,

Katarina (Croatian)


There are no words to describe the usefulness of Holistic Harmony Life Coach Training. The least I can express is how grateful I personally feel, for Robert Najemy and his efforts for so many years, towards helping people develop their true self. His courses have been an inspiration for my personal revolution and an indispensable guide towards helping my clients. God bless you with Love, Light and Strength.

Maria Peppa (Greek)


This course has led me to some very valuable insights. My all time favorite was during a chat session with a fellow student. At the time I was very angry, most of the time with almost all of the people in my 12-step support group. They were triggering a lot of anger & frustration in me every time they did something that I considered to be “STUPID”. I was constantly trying to analyze just what it was about this “STUPID” behavior that irritated me so much? I kept playing things over & over in my head & I just couldnοΏ½t figure it outοΏ½I mean other peopleοΏ½s “STUPID” behavior didnοΏ½t even really affect me, but just watching them walk through it bugged me & that didnοΏ½t make any sense! Finally, during a chat session, my partner asked me the simple, innocent question οΏ½ “Is it their behavior that bothers you, or the fact that you are powerless over what they are doing?” 

Wow! I was shocked! That was the key to solving my problem. Of course this went back to my childhood when my younger brother would to “STUPID” things that made my mother fly into a rage & then someone got hurt. As the oldest it was my responsibility to keep things running smoothly so that no one would get hurt, but I could never control my brother. One simple little question, so much insight. And it was the Holistic Harmony Life Coach Training class that taught us the questions to ask. I have received many valuable tools to use that will lead me to a happier & more self-empowering life. I am looking forward to using these valuable tools in my own life and to help others. Thank you so very much!

Denise T (USA)


After only a few months of trying to learn active listening, I did not feel very confident about my skills in this field. However, on one occasion with a person that is very close to me I couldn’t help but use the technique when she referred to a problem that is bothering her very much. And miraculously – it worked. She solved her problem and is now very happy about it Love

Christel (German)


“I have stopped blaming others for what happens to me. I try to take responsibility for my actions. I perceive others with more love and understanding. I have improved my eating habits, I exercise and relax. I now have spiritual interests.”

– Eleni Athanasiou, 34 yrs. Doctor


“My life had no meaning. I was unhappy, self destructive, unsatisfied and aggressive. Through these seminars and these techniques, I have become a new person. I feel full, optimistic, happy with a love towards life. I have been reborn. I thought I was weak and a victim of fate. Now I feel strong and capable for anything that a person can do. An something even more important, I have started to feel love.”

– Anna Karachaliou, 33 yrs. Artist, Poet


“My life has changed radically through these seminars. The first time I attended I was lost in my daily problems and responsibilities. These seminars helped me see my life more clearly. I now better understand my self and others. I now experience within me Christ’s teachings and I have put them into practice in my daily life through service to the whole. Now problems are no longer problems, but rather opportunities for inner development, growth and service.”
– Victoria Fanti, 54 yrs. Pediatrician
With Robert Elias Najemy

Seminars in Turkey (In English) Feb 2012

Seminars in Turkey (In English) June 2011

  • 01. An Introduction to Quantum Physics and the Science of Emotions (57 min. , 52 MB)
  • 02. The effect of emotions on Water and People (10 min. , 10 MB)
  • 03. An Introduction to Energy Psychology (27 min. , 27 MB)
  • 04. A Guided Freeze Frame Exercise (10 min. , 10 MB)
  • 05. After Freeze Frame, the EFT Video and our Life coach program (24 min. , 23 MB)
  • 06. How to do EFT (15 min. , 14 MB)
  • 07. Actually doing EFT and finding the Positive belief (71 min. , 65 MB)
  • 08. EFT with positive beliefs and Truths, The Hemisphere balancing exercise for installing positive beliefs and writing our gratitude list (48 min. , 44 MB)
  • 09. The results of Gratitude (5 min. , 4 MB)
  • 10. The gratitude exercise and closing, preparing for dancing (22 min. , 21 MB)

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