Self Knowledge Exercises
K06 – OBSTACLES TO LOVE OTHERSIn which situations do you loose you sense of love and unity. You may feel any of the following emotions: fear, negativity, alienation, discomfort, aversion, worry, anxiety, anger, hate, reservation, bitterness, jealousy, resentment, disillusionment, frustration, rejection towards the other or towards your self, inferiority, superiority, or any other type of emotional distancing from that person. After each situation note down some of the emotions which you might feel in that situation.
1. When others are different, or from another group or some specific grouping.
a. Strange dress______________________________________________
b. Other political party _________________________________________
c. Other religion______________________________________________
d. Other social – economic group _________________________________
e. Other educational or mental level _____________________________
f. Other country______________________________________________
g. Other race______________________________________________
2. When the other do not agree with me. When they believe and express different opinions, or reject mine. ___________________________________
3. When they criticize me or persons or groups important to me.
4. When others obstruct me or persons important to me from fulfilling important needs ie. Food, shelter, sex, work, sleep, money, vacations, meditation, the other’s approval and esteem.
5. When my energy is low or I am not feeling well.
6. When others harm me or important others physically, or hurt us emotionally___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
7. When I have personal problems which occupy much of my energy and mental resources. _______________________________________________________________________
8. When others do not live up to my expectations or do not function as we would like them to. ( especially children, spouses, siblings and parents.)_______________________________________________________________
9. When I do not love and accept myself._________________________________
10. When I feel guilt or fear_____________________________________________
Analysis and active listening concerning our obstacles towards loving others
Try to answer as honestly as possible
1. In which situations (in the face of which type of behaviors, or character types) do you lose your feelings of love unity or harmony with the others?
2. What emotions do you usually feel in those situations?
3. What do you believe :
A. About the other’s behavior or attitude?
B. About the other?
C. About your self (your safety, self worth etc.) In such situations?
4. How could you manage to sustain your feelings of unity and love in future even in such situations, or in the face of the same behavior or character types?
5. What would you like to communicate to such a person, or in such a situation?
SELF KNOWLEDGE EXERCISES
There are a variety of techniques that we can use in order to become more aware of both our personality and our greater spiritual Self. Only a few of these can be shared in written format as they require personal guidance from an experienced teacher. All of the information presented here in this web site has the purpose of increasing your self-knowledge on all levels, especially the Self Clarification Process.
Self-Knowledge Questionnaires for the purpose of understanding your personality and its functioning more deeply.
Answering the questions presented in the following questionnaires will deepen your understanding of your self.
You can find these questions in an ebook download at
Some of the subjects covered are the following:
K_01 Something HappyAnalyze something which makes you happy.
K_02 Something Which Bothers Analyze Something Which Bothers You. Understand The Feelings And The Beliefs.
K_03 Why Love Self – Discover As Many Reasons As Possible To Love, Respect And Accept Your Self
K_04 Why Love Other Discover As Many Reasons As Possible To Love, Respect And Accept Someone
K_05 Active Listening Questions – Analyze The Mechanism Through Which Your Emotions Are Created
K_06 Obstacles To Love Others Discover Your Obstacles Towards Loving Others
K_07 Analysis Loving Selves Discover Your Obstacles Towards Loving Your Self
K_08 Understand Anxiety & Worry – Discover Why You Feel Anxiety, And Worry
K_09 Understand Hurt & Pain Understand The Mechanism Of Pain And Suffering
K_10 Understand Disappointment – Realize How You Create Disappointment
K_11 Understand Depression – Understand The Mechanism Of Depression
K_12 Understanding Jealousy – Analyze Why You Feel Jealousy Or Envy
K_13 Understand Loneliness – Discover How We Create Loneliness
K_14 Understand Self Doubt – Uncover The Roots Of Self-Doubt
K_15 Understand Anger – Realize How You Create Anger
K_16 Understand Blaming – Discover Why You Tend To Criticize And Blame
K_17 Analyzing Our Conscience – Discover Where You Conscience Is Bothering, And Why You Continue With Behaviors Which Are Not In Harmony With Your Conscience
K_19 Locate Emotions – Discover Where Your Emotions Store Themselves In Your Body
K_20 Relationship Questions – A List Of Questions For Couples To Answer, So As To Get To Know Each Other More Deeply
K_21 Life’s Lessons – Discover What You Have Learn From The Others’ Behavior Which Bother You
K_22 Inner Guidance – Investigate Possible Parts Of Your Self Which Do Not Want To Get Well, Or Make Changes For The Better.
K_23 Obstacle To Getting Well – Investigate Possible Parts Of Your Self Which Do Not Want To Get Well, Or Make Changes For The Better
K_24 My Relationship With God – Research Your Relationship With The Divine. How Do You Relate To God And Universe
K_25 Obstacles To Fulfillment – Discover Possible Obstacles Towards Fulfilling Your Life Goals
K_26 Obstacles To Growth – Understand Those Inner Obstacles To Your Spiritual Growth Process
K_27 Three Love Letters – Write A Love Letter To Someone You Love, Someone You Have Difficulty With And Your Own Self
K_28 Shadow + Mask – Analyze What You Hide In Your Shadow (Subconscious) And Place In Your Mask (How You Want To Appear) And Whether Or Not You Want To Make Any Changes
K_29 Freeing Selves From Mirror- Discover What You Might Be Doing Which Might Be Attracting From Others Behaviors Which Bother You
K_30 Sorting Feelings – Distinguish Between Your Feelings And How They Store In Your Body
K_31 Understanding Emotions – Analyze The Emotions You Do And Do Not Feel Comfortable With.
K_32 12 Steps Towards Conscious Love A Detailed Questionnaire Concerning How We Relate To Love Partners
K_33 Bioenergy Level – Discover How What You Do Affects Your Energy Level
K_34 Categories Of Beliefs – Put Order To Your Various Beliefs
K_35 Dream Analysis – Make Your Own Personal Interpretation Of Your Dreams
K_36 Contract With Self – Make A Contract With Your Self Concerning Goals And Decisions
K_37 The Three Gunas – Analyze The Nature Of Your Body And Mind
K_38 Active Listening Towards Someone – Make A List Of Questions, Which You Would Like To Ask Someone You Would Like To Understand More Deeply
K_39 Purifying Character – A List Of Questions Concerning How We Would Like To Have Cultivated Our Character Before We Leave Our Bodies.
K_40 Forgiveness- Who We Would Like To Forgive And Also To Ask Forgiveness From And For What
K_41 Leaving The Body – What Will You Miss When You Leave Your Physical Body
K_42 Life Goals – What Are The Goals Which We Would Like To Accomplish Before Leaving Our Physical Bodies?
K_43 Mirroring Possibilities – Discover What Aspects Of Your Self Might Be Reflecting Back To You From Others
K_44 Facing Death Of Loved Ones – Questions Concerning How We Feel About The Possible Departure Of Loved Ones
K_45 What To Actualize? – List What You Would Like To Actualize In Your Life.
K_46 Being Ready For Departure – How To Be Ready For Our Departure From The Physical Body Whenever That Might Occur
K_47 How You Want Things To End – Realize How You Would Like The Various Aspects Of Your Life To Unfold
K_48 Liberation From Childhood – A Detailed Analysis Of How We Can Discover The Programming Of Our Childhood Years
K_49 Positive For Roles – Find The Beliefs Which Will Aid You In Getting Free From Being Affected By People Playing The Roles Of Intimidator, Interrogator, Victim And Aloof
K_50 Making A Program For Change – A Detailed Guide For Making Specific Decisions For Self-Improvement