Self Knowledge Questionnaires – No 5 Active Listening

Self Knowledge Exercises 




Even though this list of questions was created as a guide for active listening, it has proven to be a very effective questionnaire for self-analysis. Whenever you have anything bothering you, try to answer these questions in the order they appear below.In addition to your logical responses, imagine how your inner child might answer.


a. No counseling, criticism, advice.

b. We don’t take over the conversation to give our opinion. We let the other person talk. Ask questions only when he stops or is blocked off.

c. Our first questions should reexpress what we heard using our own words in order to make sure that we have understood correctly what is going on inside the other person. (We do not analyse the other person).

d. There is no need to be restricted to the questions below, they are designed to serve as a guide.




1. How you feel: What emotions do you have concerning this subject, event, or situation?

2. Do you have any other emotions, in connection with this?

3. How do you feel about yourself when you have these emotions?

4. In what other situations have you felt similar emotions?

5. How long have you felt this way?

6. How often do you feel this way?

7. Did you ever feel this way as a child or in the past in general?

8. Are there, or were there, moments during which despite you were in a similar situation, you managed to feel and / or react differently?

9. Which and when were these moments? (Quest.8)

10. What did you say to yourself in these moments which helped you not to feel and/ or react differently? (Quest.8)



1. What do you believe about what’s happening that makes you feel that way?

2. What do you believe which makes you believe in this? (Quest.1)

Keep asking which belief is “behind” and creates each belief which you discover.

3. And if what you want does not really happen? What does this mean? What will happen? What will not happen? What will you loose? What is in danger if what you want does not happen?

4. And if what you want does not happen what does this mean: about you: about others: about life itself?

5. What is the possible danger here?

6. What do you fear in this situation?

7. What is the worst that can happen here?

8. And if this should happen? (Quest.7)

9. What makes you believe that this might happen and that it will be so horrible if it does?

10. What were your parents’ convictions about this?

11. Do you always believe this? (Quest.7)

12. Do you consciously believe this, that is, do you believe it is an objective truth? (Quest.7)

13. Perhaps you can’t see any conscious conviction that creates these emotions in you, but, despite this, you feel bad about it just the same. What is it that your subconscious (the child within) could believe to make you feel these emotions when this happens?

14. What is it you want or you believe you must have, which other people or the particular situation prevent you from having?

15. What do you lose when this happens?

16. Did you have the acceptance and love which you needed from your parents?

17. Did your parents trust your ability to deal with life?


1. If life is a school and you have come here to learn some lessons, what is it that life is trying to teach you in this case?

2. What inner preparation can you make in order to learn these lessons more effectively? (Quest.1)

3. What can you do externally to overcome the problem?

4. Is there something others can do to help? Can you express this wish for help or cooperation now as if you were talking to them? (Psychodrama or written communication).

5. Is there something I can do to help you? (Who can help you?)

6. If you had faith in yourself, would you feel the same?

7. What convictions or truths could help you to feel better or to overcome it?

8. What changes you would like to make in your life?

a) In your thinking?

b) In your habits?

c) In your manner or communication?

d) In your way of life?

9. What is it that you would like to express to others that you haven’t expressed, or that you find difficult to express? (Parents, child, companion, colleagues etc.)

10. If you had a magic wand””

a) What reality would you create for yourself (without any restrictions)

b) How would you like to be?

11. If you had no financial, family or social obligation, what would you do with your life?


There are a variety of techniques that we can use in order to become more aware of both our personality and our greater spiritual Self. Only a few of these can be shared in written format as they require personal guidance from an experienced teacher. All of the information presented here in this web site has the purpose of increasing your self-knowledge on all levels, especially the Self Clarification Process.
Self-Knowledge Questionnaires for the purpose of understanding your personality and its functioning more deeply.
Answering the questions presented in the following questionnaires will deepen your understanding of your self.

You can find these questions in an ebook download at

Some of the subjects covered are the following:

K_01 Something HappyAnalyze something which makes you happy.

K_02 Something Which Bothers Analyze Something Which Bothers You. Understand The Feelings And The Beliefs.

K_03 Why Love Self – Discover As Many Reasons As Possible To Love, Respect And Accept Your Self

K_04 Why Love Other Discover As Many Reasons As Possible To Love, Respect And Accept Someone

K_05 Active Listening Questions – Analyze The Mechanism Through Which Your Emotions Are Created

K_06 Obstacles To Love Others Discover Your Obstacles Towards Loving Others

K_07 Analysis Loving Selves Discover Your Obstacles Towards Loving Your Self

K_08 Understand Anxiety & Worry – Discover Why You Feel Anxiety, And Worry

K_09 Understand Hurt & Pain Understand The Mechanism Of Pain And Suffering

K_10 Understand Disappointment – Realize How You Create Disappointment

K_11 Understand Depression – Understand The Mechanism Of Depression

K_12 Understanding Jealousy – Analyze Why You Feel Jealousy Or Envy

K_13 Understand Loneliness – Discover How We Create Loneliness

K_14 Understand Self Doubt – Uncover The Roots Of Self-Doubt

K_15 Understand Anger – Realize How You Create Anger

K_16 Understand Blaming – Discover Why You Tend To Criticize And Blame

K_17 Analyzing Our Conscience – Discover Where You Conscience Is Bothering, And Why You Continue With Behaviors Which Are Not In Harmony With Your Conscience

K_19 Locate Emotions – Discover Where Your Emotions Store Themselves In Your Body

K_20 Relationship Questions – A List Of Questions For Couples To Answer, So As To Get To Know Each Other More Deeply

K_21 Life’s Lessons – Discover What You Have Learn From The Others’ Behavior Which Bother You

K_22 Inner Guidance – Investigate Possible Parts Of Your Self Which Do Not Want To Get Well, Or Make Changes For The Better.

K_23 Obstacle To Getting Well – Investigate Possible Parts Of Your Self Which Do Not Want To Get Well, Or Make Changes For The Better

K_24 My Relationship With God – Research Your Relationship With The Divine. How Do You Relate To God And Universe

K_25 Obstacles To Fulfillment – Discover Possible Obstacles Towards Fulfilling Your Life Goals

K_26 Obstacles To Growth – Understand Those Inner Obstacles To Your Spiritual Growth Process

K_27 Three Love Letters – Write A Love Letter To Someone You Love, Someone You Have Difficulty With And Your Own Self

K_28 Shadow + Mask – Analyze What You Hide In Your Shadow (Subconscious) And Place In Your Mask (How You Want To Appear) And Whether Or Not You Want To Make Any Changes

K_29 Freeing Selves From Mirror- Discover What You Might Be Doing Which Might Be Attracting From Others Behaviors Which Bother You

K_30 Sorting Feelings – Distinguish Between Your Feelings And How They Store In Your Body

K_31 Understanding Emotions – Analyze The Emotions You Do And Do Not Feel Comfortable With.

K_32 12 Steps Towards Conscious Love A Detailed Questionnaire Concerning How We Relate To Love Partners

K_33 Bioenergy Level – Discover How What You Do Affects Your Energy Level

K_34 Categories Of Beliefs – Put Order To Your Various Beliefs

K_35 Dream Analysis – Make Your Own Personal Interpretation Of Your Dreams

K_36 Contract With Self – Make A Contract With Your Self Concerning Goals And Decisions

K_37 The Three Gunas – Analyze The Nature Of Your Body And Mind

K_38 Active Listening Towards Someone – Make A List Of Questions, Which You Would Like To Ask Someone You Would Like To Understand More Deeply

K_39 Purifying Character – A List Of Questions Concerning How We Would Like To Have Cultivated Our Character Before We Leave Our Bodies.

K_40 Forgiveness- Who We Would Like To Forgive And Also To Ask Forgiveness From And For What

K_41 Leaving The Body – What Will You Miss When You Leave Your Physical Body

K_42 Life Goals – What Are The Goals Which We Would Like To Accomplish Before Leaving Our Physical Bodies?

K_43 Mirroring Possibilities – Discover What Aspects Of Your Self Might Be Reflecting Back To You From Others

K_44 Facing Death Of Loved Ones – Questions Concerning How We Feel About The Possible Departure Of Loved Ones

K_45 What To Actualize? – List What You Would Like To Actualize In Your Life.

K_46 Being Ready For Departure – How To Be Ready For Our Departure From The Physical Body Whenever That Might Occur

K_47 How You Want Things To End – Realize How You Would Like The Various Aspects Of Your Life To Unfold

K_48 Liberation From Childhood – A Detailed Analysis Of How We Can Discover The Programming Of Our Childhood Years

K_49 Positive For Roles – Find The Beliefs Which Will Aid You In Getting Free From Being Affected By People Playing The Roles Of Intimidator, Interrogator, Victim And Aloof

K_50 Making A Program For Change – A Detailed Guide For Making Specific Decisions For Self-Improvement

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