This is a part of a series of articles with questions, which will help us understand our emotions and how we can free ourselves from unwanted ones.
The following questions may help us understand and overcome our loneliness.
1. “When do you feel most lonely?” “At what times of day or week and in which situations?”
2. “What do you believe that you need at those moments in order to feel more connected with the others or the world around you?”
3. “Is there something which prevents you from contacting other people when you feel lonely?”
a. Do you feel too proud to contact someone?
b. Are you afraid that there will not be the response you want?
c. Or are you afraid of anything else, which prevents you from contacting other people, when you are feeling lonely?
4. “What do you believe which makes you feel lonely?”
5. “What do you believe which makes being alone unacceptable or painful?”
6. “Do you believe in God?” ” If yes, how could you feel His/Her/Its presence more tangibly in your life, especially when you are feeling lonely?”
7. “There are also many other people who feel lonely, such as the elderly, orphans, the ill, blind, deaf, paralyzed etc. people who may need help. How would you feel about helping these people with their loneliness?” If not, why not?” If yes, where and when would you like to begin?”
8. “Which beliefs do you need to change here in order to be able to accept being alone?” “How will you change these beliefs?”
9. “Which beliefs do you need to change in order to feel more connected to others and/or God and life?” “How will you change these beliefs?”
10. “Which beliefs do you need to change in order to feel freer to express your needs for greater or deeper contact with others?” “How will you change these beliefs?”
11. “With which persons would you like to begin this expression and what would you like to say?”
Now you may like to describe how you would like to think, feel and respond in future situations. You may find it more powerful to write your description in the present tense as if it is already a reality.