Love is a word used in many contexts. It can mean anything from lust, desire or attachment to romantic love or the highest Spiritual Love.
The purity of our love can be measured by the happiness it brings us. When we suffer because of our so called «Love» this means that it is not yet pure. It is mixed with ignorance, need, attachment, fear, lust, expectation, dependency or other mental states. These are always the real causes of our suffering when we «love».
Love then is like the gold ore, which is dug up from the earth. It is mixed with other minerals. We need to heat it up and melt it so that we can separate it from the other unwanted substances.
Our relationships with people close to us are the fires, which help us to purify our love. Every time we feel hurt, anger, fear, resentment, bitterness, hate, jealousy, disillusionment or any other negative feeling, it is because our love is mixed with expectation, dependency, need, attachment or fear. The negative feelings, which are generated, are an excellent incentive for us to analyze ourselves and discover what our attachment is and get free from it.
Then we can love a little more purely. Our gold is now a little purer.
When our love is pure and there is spiritual awareness of our true selves, there can be no suffering.
This is the purpose of life; purifying and perfecting our love.