Without a doubt, the most painful experience in life is to lose a loved one. The worst for most people is to lose a child, then a spouse and then other loved ones. Over the years I have had the fortune to conduct seminars on death and immortality and groups for those who have recently lost loved ones.
I am very grateful to all those who attended and taught me by sharing their emotions, experiences and insights through the various stages of coping with this extremely painful and often totally overwhelming event.
I would like to share with you here some of what I learned about coping with the death of loved ones through out these years.
EMOTIONS FREQUENTLY EXPERIENCED
Before continuing to discuss these emotions, I would like to clearly state that I respect the depth and strength with which they can flood our being. When I point out other ways of looking at what is happening, it is not because I do not respect the way in which we are presently perceiving it.
Nor do I believe that it is easy to change perspective. I simply know that it will happen slowly any way, and would like to help that change take place sooner, so that we all move closer to the truth and thus to happiness.
1. Pain of loss. Losing a loved one is like losing a part of our body. It hurts. We feel that a part of our own selves is missing. It is simply inconceivable to us that this being simply does not exist any more – as a body. We expect from moment to moment to hear him or her come through the door. No one can diminish the intensity of this pain, of this suffering. What can we do? Nothing! At first, there is nothing that we can do but just experience it. And this is exactly what we can do – experience and express it. The more we allow our selves to express this pain, the more quickly it will exhaust itself.
We hurt. This is the truth. Nothing can change this, except for a deep awareness of the truth of life. But if we do already not have it at this moment, it will be difficult for us to simply wear it now like a piece of clothing. So we are left with nothing to do but experience and express our pain. Find someone who is trained in listening and facilitating your emotional expression and externalization. Meet with him or her once a week and get help in acknowledging all your feelings. You may discover other feelings which you have not yet understood, such as fear, anger, guilt, jealousy, bitterness, hurt etc.
As we discuss each of the feelings which one might after losing a loved one, remember this one point which is common to coping with each of the: accept them. Accept that they exist. Find a person who you trust to share them with. Express them with words verbally, in written form, with movement, with your crying, with any sounds which express them . Do not hold back your tears or your pain. In this way this storm of emotions will pass much more quickly and you will be ready to accept what has happened and get on with your life.
In each case there will be specific spiritual and emotional lessons or opportunities for you to learn. You cannot learn these until you first discharge your emotions, your pain, your hurt, your anger.
Then your loss becomes your gain. Your pain becomes the triggering process which opens the door towards your self fulfillment. You then are ready to learn the truth about life and your self. The truth which relieves all pain, all fear. Christ’s Truth which «sets us free».
2. Fear that we will not be able to continue living without the person. This applies especially to widows, who have been programmed that they are weak, and need a husband in order to be safe, secure or socially accepted. It also applies to all situations in which we feel that we need that other person emotionally, physically, socially, mentally, economically or in any other way. The truth is that losing a loved one is an excellent spiritual opportunity to find this sense of strength, security, worthiness and self respect from within and from our relationship with God. It make take some time to overcome the fear. It will gradually subside and we will be much stronger because of this loss. Each loss of external support is an opportunity to find inner strength.
3. Injustice and bitterness that Life, or God, took my loved one. This is more intense when the departed one was young; a child or spouse in the prime of life.
We cry, «WHY? Where is the justice? Why my child? Why my husband – wife? Why has this happened to me? What have I done to deserve this? What did my loved one do do deserve this? What am I being punished for? I have done nothing to deserve this!»
Such an experience is obviously a very trying test of our faith in God, in His wisdom and in the perfect justice of the divine plan. Many persons lose their faith in, and love for, God in such moments. Remembering how Job and Abraham handled their tests may help us to cultivate that faith which we are all so lacking.
When we cry WHY? And rightly so, let us do it with all our might, demanding an answer!!! But let us then sit quietly alone with our eyes closed and wait to hear some type of answer. When we shout WHY? as an accusation, then we in all fairness, must give the accused party the chance to answer to explain. Thus after each crying session, after each WHY?, let us sit quietly and be receptive, and allow our minds to be open, so that we may hear the answers. Because there are answers if we want to hear them.
They may not come at the moment we are sitting. They may come after some time when we are watching a TV show, listening to the radio, talking with a friend, reading a book (perhaps this book), walking in nature, taking a bath or doing nothing at all. It may come in a dream or upon waking in the morning.
It may come only after many years, when our pain and anger have subsided enough to allow the truth to come in. The truth was always there, but we could not see it, because we were not ready for such a painful experience. We were not ready because no one ever helped us to be ready, because we live in a death-denying, non-believing society.
Thus our loved one’s death will eventually become an avenue towards greater understanding of the nature of reality and the laws of the universe which we have discussed in this book. Our pain becomes a motivating force, pushing us towards the realization that there is a perfect and just divine plan which governs birth, death and all between. We will then realize that our loved one’s death was no accident, nor an injustice, but exactly what we both chose in order to grow spiritually. That does not mean that he sacrificed his life so that I could wake up spiritually. He got out of the game early. He is the lucky one, who had less lessons to take. I am staying, suffering and learning the lessons. What has happened was perfect for our mutual evolution.
We can believe this through faith or understanding of the Universal Laws.
4. Depression and disillusionment that life has no meaning any more without my loved one. This again is especially true when losing a child or spouse who was the «purpose of our lives», who was our main occupation.
We identify with these roles of parent and spouse or child and learn to find our identity and meaning in life from them. When the person or persons who played those roles with us suddenly disappear, we are left with depression, unless we can find a new identity and meaning in life.
This of course is a great spiritual opportunity in that we now have the opportunity to grow and evolve into new hopefully more universal roles. We have found through the years that three basic goals help people to more quickly to get on with their lives.
One is the goal of evolution or self improvement. Life has meaning and is interesting when we are working on changing and improving our selves.
The second is creativity. We all get lost in ourselves and experience joy when we create. Creativity can be in all areas of life, from drawing, singing, dancing, writing to gardening, cooking and developing a business.
The third is service. We feel that our life has meaning when we can be of use to others, when we can make their lives happier or more comfortable in some way.
We encourage all persons to align their lives with these three basic purposes of life: evolution, creativity and service. This is especially important for persons who are in depression.
5. Guilt that I did not give enough love to that person. I did not show him enough love. I scolded him too much, I complained too much. I was negative and unpleasant. I never told him, how much I loved, respected and appreciated him. I was unpleasant and nagging.
All this might be true, although it is probably not as true as we now imagine it. The other may not have experienced us as negatively as we imagine. If, however, we do feel guilt, there are some solutions.
We can bring that person to mind and imagine that he or she is standing in front of us. (This may require some practice in relaxation, positive projection, or meditation techniques.) We can then communicate mentally with this person, expressing our remorse and regret and ask for forgiveness.
I did this with my father,r who was suddenly murdered. It helped me overcome guilt I felt about not showing him the love and respect I did have for him, because I was still rebelling.
We can also express our hurt, anger, disappointment or any other feelings. We can settle accounts. They hear us, as we have already established in chapter I. Thus we can simultaneously forgive and ask forgiveness. Such an exercise will bring us peace of mind. If we are accustomed to the Sacraments of confession and Holy communion, then let us also partake in them. Then let us forgive our selves and be over with these useless emotions of guilt which do not help anyone at all – certainly not our loved one and not our selves.
6. Guilt that I could have done more to keep him alive. I should have taken him to another doctor, to another hospital. If only we had done this other operation. If only I was there when he died, I could have prevented it. It is all my fault. I am to blame for his death.
Such feelings are common. Let us, however, take a look at them. This is like playing God. Am I God that I can keep someone alive? Such thoughts are totally in contradiction with the laws of the universe which state that each soul (in collaboration with the divine plan) decides the moment of birth and death. No one can create some one else’s death. I do not believe that the person who shot my father was the cause of his death. I believe that he was simply the means by which my father’s death was manifested. I believe that my father, as a soul, had chosen to die in this way on this day, although his conscious mind was totally unaware of this fact. The only thing he said after being shot, as he looked into the eyes of his assailant was, “WHY?”
But three days earlier my mother heard him call out in in his sleep, «Ray, Ray watch out he has a gun.» Ray Ghosn was the other professor who was shot by the same student five minutes earlier. The student shot Ray Ghosn (whom my father was warning in his sleep) and then my father. My father knew, in his subconscious mind, that he would die on this day. But this remained unknown to his conscious mind.
If I believe in the divine law which dictates that each soul, in collaboration with God, creates his own destiny, how can I believe that someone else is responsible for another’s death. Not even he who pulls the trigger. Thus how much more difficult is it for me to believe that someone died because we did not take him to one more doctor, do one more operation, or because we were not there when he died.
This, of course , does not mean that we do not do whatever we can to save every life. But when the soul has departed, it has nothing to do with us or our negligence. We are obliged to do whatever we can, but then we must offer all results to God and accept that He controls all results and that as St. Paul declares, «not a hair moves on the head of man, without His will.»
7. Sorrow, disappointment, disillusionment and bitterness that I do not have the emotional support I expected to have from friends and relatives. When someone dies, the days immediately afterward are filled with many mind distracting activities. Many people come to express their condolences. Perhaps they may offer various types of help. There are many official papers to be filed out. There are various economic and other matters to be taken care of.
Then suddenly one day, all this has passed and we are alone perhaps for the first time since it happened. There are no more papers to fill out, no more matters to arrange.
Our friends have their lives to live, their responsibilities, work, family social engagements. They also may feel uncomfortable in our presence, because they do not know what to say or to do to help us feel better. They may even feel guilty that they have their loved ones and are happy. Our pain might trigger their fear of losing loved ones, or their pain about the some other matters.
Thus they might not enjoy being with us, not because they do not love us or care for us, but because they are not able to face the pain and suffering which permeate our environment. This is especially so when we ourselves are obsessed about talking exclusively about this one subject of the death of our loved one. The others may sit with us two or three or ten times, but eventually they will not be able any more to hear about something which they, and no one else, can change. Such a situation may be an opportunity to cultivate understanding towards the others and their difficulty in the face of pain and suffering. It may be an opportunity to overcome the belief that we need others to feel well, to be happy or secure. We can overcome the belief that because we have passed through this terrible misfortune, that others are obliged to pay attention to us and to help us, even if we our selves are not ready to let go of our pain.
If we see people pulling away, it may be that the time has come for us to let go of our pain and also start giving and helping others – they too have their problems. Loneliness can be solved by others reaching out to us or by our reaching out to them.
Gradually we will get on with our lives and we will connect with other people and our loneliness will disappear. Getting involved in service towards others, who are lonely or need some type of selfless service, will help a lot.
8. Loneliness that I am alone now. It is difficult to connect with other people. They are not open, not friendly. I have no one to talk to, to share with, to be myself with.
It is natural to feel lonely when we lose a loved one. We are experiencing that emptiness which that person helped to fill. We have learned to fill this emptiness through others or through various other stimuli, such as TV, newspapers, stimulants, tranquilizers, and activities in general.
However, that which fills us most is a deep love relationship in which we feel loved unconditionally by the other. This is healing, supporting, verifying. It gives us a feeling of security and self worth. Thus, it is natural to feel lonely when a person who offered us all that disappears, even if our relationship wasn’t perfect.
Loneliness is the «dis- ease» of our times. It has nothing to do with being alone. One could be surrounded by many persons and feel loneliness, because he cannot be himself with them. Another can be alone in the seclusion and not feel lonely, because he feels connected with others, through nature, or God, or in some other way.
If we can accept that loneliness and begin to face it, we might find that we can also feel well alone, or that we can feel comfortable and be ourselves with other persons, who we do not know so well.
Another important aspect of facing loneliness is developing a relationship with our selves. This we can do by actually spending time alone and learning to occupy our selves and enjoy our selves alone.
Focusing on our relationship with God through prayer, meditation and other methods of awareness of and communication with the divine, can also be very fulfilling. Walks in nature can fill that emptiness as we feel our connection with the universe through nature.
And, finally, by serving those others who are lonely – the poor, the homeless, orphans, the elderly, we fill our emptiness as we fill theirs. Remember our loneliness can disappear when others reach out to us, or when we reach out to them.
9. Jealousy that the others still have their loved ones and I do not. We have all felt jealousy when someone has something which we do not have. This is natural. Of course this jealousy does not bring our loved one back, and often makes us feel guilty that we are jealous.
Accepting our jealousy will help. Accepting that we are jealous and perhaps allowing ourselves to express it, to confess it to someone we trust, will help us to release these feelings. It is amazing how our feelings gradually deflate when we admit them, and share them with someone who can understand. This is an important phenomenon: that when we acknowledge our emotions and express them, they gradually dissipate.
We often do he opposite. We are afraid to admit our emotions even to ourselves. We fear admitting them to others for fear that they will reject us, not love us. But this suppression does not work. The others sense our emotions any way. We are locked into them as long as we are ashamed that we have them and do not admit to them.
This is true of all the emotions we are discussing in this section. We have everything to gain by recognizing them, admitting them and expressing them to some one who will understand. They will subside much more quickly. Gradually our feelings will subside as we get on with our lives and learn to enjoy other people and events and thus have nothing to envy in the others.
Also as we learn to believe in the Universal Law which declares that each is given exactly what he or she needs in order to evolve and learn life’s lessons, we will realize that we have exactly what we need in order to be happy, if only we can learn to see and appreciate all that we have. If we look objectively, we will see that we are better off than a good 80% of our brothers on this planet.
10. Anger towards those who were in some way connected with, or «responsible for», the death of my loved one. Perhaps a doctor made a mistake, or someone was driving recklessly and my loved one is dead, and they are fine. Our pain demands that we find who has done this wrong? Who has made this horrible mistake? Who is to blame? This a way to sidetrack our pain. Feeling anger reduces the amount of pain and fear. Our anger is like a pill which covers our pain and fear.
In most cases, this anger is also towards God who allowed this to happen. This anger may lead to rejection of God and all things which have to do with Him. «If there was a God, He would not have let this happen.» We are angry and hurt. In the case where some human was possibly at fault, then we might even feel the need for revenge. We might want to make this person feel the pain that we feel. Perhaps this will lessen our hurt? We cannot really think clearly. We simply feel that someone must pay for what has happened here.
We must find someone whom we trust to hear us and acknowledge our feelings and helps us see what is happening more objectively. We must be careful not to be carried away by the need for revenge, for it will not remove our pain, nor make our loved one happy where he is. For he knows the truth , that no one was responsible for his death, that he chose the moment and the way he left his physical body and knew it (and so did you) subconsciously.
As for God, we have already mentioned that this event is an opportunity to cultivate real faith. To stop believing in God because He did not do what we wanted Him to do, is like denying to believe that someone exists because he refuses to give us something which we have asked from him.
Your children ask things from you, which you chose not to give because you believe or know that it is best for them not to have those things at the present. Should they hate you for this or claim that you do not exist because you do not do what they want.
God hears our requests, and just like every conscientious parent, does what He knows is best for the child. When He knows that losing a loved one is so much better for our evolution and development as a human being, what should He do, grant our wish or do what is best for us as a soul in the process of evolution. It is illogical to say that God does not exist, simply because we do not understand what is best for our evolution and want things to be as they always were in order for us to feel secure and happy.
11. Anger towards the loved one who has left me. Or rejection by the loved one who has left me. We may feel angry towards our loved one who chose to leave the earth plane at this time and leave us alone here. We may feel that they have rejected us in this way.
The same holds here as with all emotions. Admit them, express them and then investigate the truth. The truth is that you both as spirits agreed that this would happen even before you were born into this material plane. You agreed that he would leave and you would stay, so that you both could learn your respective lessons.
NEGATIVE THOUGHT FORMS ABOUT THE DEATH OF A LOVED ONE
These emotions are the result of various beliefs, programmings or thought forms which have been programmed into our conscious and subconscious minds. As long as the beliefs are there, the emotions will come forth. The beliefs are like the fire and the emotions are the smoke. Let us look at some of these beliefs which generate these emotions within us.
1. I cannot live without him (her).
2. I am not secure without him (her).
3. No one else but he or she can give me joy or security.
4. My life has no meaning without him (her).
5. I want to die also, I want to be with him/ her.
We have been programmed that we must have specific persons close to us who will make us feel secure, happy, worthy etc. We give these persons the «keys» to our happiness. Very likely there was a time in our lives when we didn’t even know them, when we were not with them. Now we cannot imagine that we can be happy without them. But the truth is that we can. So many billions of people who have lived on the earth and lost their loved ones have proven this. Each has thought these thoughts, but each has moved on to live a normal life when these feelings naturally subsided and the need to continue pushed up and over these fears. We will eventually move on, just as all those before us have. Every one of us will lose every one we know, either through our death or that of those we know. Each and every one of us will die within the next 70 to 90 years (in order to take into consideration the small children that we know). We will lose all. All will lose us. This is the nature of the physical universe.
6. Death is a bad, painful experience.
Wrong! All who have died momentarily and returned report that leaving our of the body is a wonderful and very enjoyable experience. Very few wanted to return to the body. We who remain continue to suffer and learn lessons. They are on «vacation» from the school of evolution.
7. I don’t have the right to be happy since my loved one has died.
8. I will betray my loved one if I become happy.
9. I will betray my loved one if I love someone else as much as I loved him (her).
10. I will betray my loved one if I find a different purpose and meaning in my life.
We have seen in previous chapters that our loved ones are immortal spiritual beings, who have played various roles with us in various life times, in order that we all continue our evolution. Which loved one will we be betraying if we love another, the one from this life or the previous thousand lives? Have we not, then, betrayed our loved ones from previous lives by loving those of this life?
How does love betray? Can love be promised to only one aspect of the Divine, or is it for all aspects of the Divine? I am not talking about sex or free sex, but about love, service and unity. Can loving or serving another aspect of the Divine ever betray my loved one who has moved on to another dimension. I would be simply loving and serving another aspect of himself.
11. I have been treated unjustly.
12. I am unlucky.
13. I am the most miserable person I know.
Every day 40,000 children die before their parents eyes because they do not have the means to keep them alive. Yesterday 40,000 children. Today 40,000 children. Tomorrow 40,000 children. The day after tomorrow 40,000 children. This week 280,000 parents will see their children die. This month 1,112,000 parents will suffer their childrens’ deaths. This year 13,440,000 parents will suffer their childrens deaths. And next year? And in the 70 years of my life, 938,000,000 parents? And we have ignored all the wars, accidents, suicides etc. of the civilized world. Need I say more?
This may not make my pain less. But it must remove the false belief that I am unlucky, or being treated unjustly or am the most miserable person. Yes, I have pain. No one can deny that, But I am not being treated differently than the rest of creation. Life in the physical body is temporary .
14. The other’s death is a punishment for him or me.
15. I am a sinner, otherwise God would not have punished me in this manner.
16. God does not love me since He allowed my loved one to die.
17. There is no God, otherwise He would not allow my loved one to die.
There is no punishment in the universe. There are only lessons. God is love. He gains no pleasure in punishing. We create our our evolutionary curriculum, with the Divine as our guidance counselor. It is a shame that we interpret opportunities for growth as punishment.
When a student decides to become a doctor, he sets himself up for a number of years of suffering in terms of limited freedom of movement, exhausting hours of study and examinations. He does not interpret these as punishment, for he remembers that he has chosen this and that, in this way, he will develop the qualities he needs in order to be a doctor.
It the same way the soul, which has the goal of manifesting its unlimited divine potential here on earth, programs various test and lessons through which it will be able to (or forced to) develop those divine potentials. One of the main tests, is the loss of a loved one. It has nothing to do with punishment, neither for us nor for our loved one.
18. It’s my fault he died. I could have done something more.
We have already mentioned that this thought is in direct violation of the Law of Creation. Each creates his own birth and death. No one else can do this for another. If his or her hour had not come, not even the greatest mass murder in the world could have touched him or her. Every one else would be touched except for him whose hour had not come. We are not in a position to change these events.
19. I did not have the chance to correct my relationship to him (her). I am guilty toward him (her). I was not entirely correct toward him (her).
We have already mentioned that we can now correct this relationship by communicating now with our loved one. When we say communicate, we do not mean go to a medium and have a conversation with him. We recommend that this is not a good idea.
First of all many «mediums» are not exactly what they say they are.
Secondly, we may not be communicating with our loved one , but rather with some low level spirit which hovers around the earth rather than proceeding in his evolution.
Thirdly, we hold our loved one back by such communications. We call his attention towards the earth level. It is totally a different thing to close our eyes and communicate to our loved one during those first days after his departure, and totally another to badger him with mediumistic contacts for years after, because of our inability to let go.
Just close your eyes, bring your loved one into your awareness and express your feelings, forgive and ask for forgiveness and then let go and get on with your life.
Do this a few times in the beginning and then after a few months if you notice that you still have suppressed feelings. But after a year or so, just let that soul get on with its work, and you with yours.
20. He deserted me. He left me alone.
I am sure that no one chooses death as a way of deserting another. We have mutually chosen this event for our mutual spiritual benefit.
I repeat that I in no way underestimate the pain and strength of emotions we feel when we lose a loved one. This is totally natural. So do not be offended when I encourage us to move on and to let go.
If you are not ready for some of the messages in this chapter or this book, that is perfectly natural. These emotions need time to dissipate. Come back to these pages again after some time, you may perceive them completely differently.
POSITIVE THOUGHT FORMS
There are some beliefs or thought forms which can be very supporting in our effort to cope with the death of a loved one. If you find any of these helpful, write them down in large letters and place them where you can see them often. Feel free to alter them to apply more appropriately to your own specific needs.
You could also make a cassette with these messages to play while in deep relaxation or as you fall asleep.
1. I am an eternal soul, and have the power to live, to survive, to be happy and to offer. All is within me.
2. My loved one is an eternal, immortal soul who continues to live in another dimension more beautiful than the one that I live in.
3. Since my loved one is very well and far closer to his true nature and to God, I can be glad for him and I can give joy to myself and to those around me.
4. God is within me and around me, and so I always feel secure, protected and tranquil.
5. Everything happens according to a perfect Divine Plan which gives to each of us what he needs for our evolution as a soul. For some reason it was best for my loved one to move on to another level of existence. As for my own evolution toward God, it is best that I stay on here, even without him.
6. Everyone on this earth has lost loved ones (not only me). Also, we will all lose, little by little, all the people we know because we are only temporary on this earth and our departure is perfectly natural.
7. The departure of the soul from the restrictions of the temporary physical body is a beautiful liberation from a very limited incarnated state.
8. The loss of my loved one is a great opportunity for spiritual development, through the cultivation of inner power, tranquility, security and selfacceptance.
9. I accept the perfection of the Divine Plan and I forgive God and everyone for what is happening to me.
10. My loved one would want me to be happy and to continue my life creatively and beautifully.
11. I am accepted by society for what I am and not because of my relationship with someone.
12. The loss of a loved one is not related to punishment but is instead a great opportunity for spiritual development and inner growth.
13. I am a pure child of God and he loves me unconditionally.
14. No one can be responsible for someone else’s death. Each person has selected the hour and the place from which he will leave. The others are simply the instruments he is using for his departure.
15. I can, even now, correct my relationship with my loved one with inner concentration and prayer.
16. We are all evolving souls, all children of God. I open myself to my brothers in the family of humanity who are now with me on this planet. My loved one would want me to.
17. I share with others my sorrow and my joy. We are one big family of humanity.
18. I find meaning in life by offering, creating and evolving. This is why I have come on this Earth.
19. Life is a gift of God, and it is my duty to use it for my benefit and that of others.
20. Today 40.000 parents have lost their children. Tomorrow another 40.000 parents will lose their children. I am not alone in pain. The soul’s departure from the physical body is a natural part of life on earth.
21. There is only one universal life which expresses itself through all beings. The same consciousness that expressed itself through my loved one is now being expressed through every one around me. By loving and offering to others, I love and offer to him.
WHAT STEPS I CAN TAKE
1. I can study the spiritual truths related to the following topics:
a. What is man?
b. What is the relationship between the soul and the body?
c. Why does a soul take on a body?
d. What happens when the soul leaves the body?
e. What is the relationship between man, nature and God?
2. I can express my feelings openly to those who I discover can respect and understand them, even if that means finding a «professional listener». ( Perhaps a priest, minister, psychologist, spiritual teacher or a good friend)
3. I can pray for my loved one’s development and growth as a soul on the dimensions where he or she is now residing. I can light a candle for him as frequently as I feel the need to send him energy and love.
I do not need to go to his grave. He is not there. He is wherever I am. He is not attracted to his discarded body but to those he loves. I can ask others to pray for him also. This is important for the first forty days and then less so for another year. After that is not so important.
4. I can gradually free myself from excessive concentration on him and pay more attention to those who have been left behind. It is best to remove belongings which remind me of him or her. I can give them to charity or to those who need them or would appreciate them. Their presence around the home will obstruct my gradual detachment and the getting on with my life (which is what my loved on would want).
5. I can occupy myself with the three basic meanings of life:
a. Offering – service
c. Evolution – Self knowledge
6. I must be patient.
7. I can cultivate faith in God and in myself.
8. I can join a group of people dedicated to the process of growth where we can mutually support each other in this process.
HELPFUL SOURCES OF KNOWLEDGE
1. Books published by the “Center of Harmonious Living”:
a) “The Psychology of Happiness”
b) “The Mystical Circle of Life”
c) “Universal Philosophy”
d)” Miracles of Love and Wisdom”