“We Have Nothing to Fear but Fear Itself”
Franklin Theodore Roosevelt
Indeed fear is our greatest obstacle to happiness, peace and fulfillment on a personal, social and international level. All anger, hatred, prejudice, aggression, violence, and war can be ultimately attributed to fear.
For this reason, we are dedicating a separate chapter to fear.
If we want to be free, loving and happy beings or if we want to grow spiritually we will need to overcome all fears.
Now, with EFT we can do this quite easily.
Fear is the Mother of All Negative Emotions
The various expressions of fear have different names such as insecurity, anxiety, concern, weakness, worry, inability, confusion, fear itself, depression, denial, shock, hysteria, panic, paralysis, anger, hate, rage, aggressiveness, violence and jealously, etc.
From the moment we relinquished the security of our mother?s womb and had our umbilical cord cut, we experienced separation, isolation, insecurity and fear.
We fear for our bodies and personalities, because we know they are vulnerable and mortal. Out of fear, we seek to create some sense of security by ensuring that we have “sufficient” people, money, and objects, as well as a professional and social position, etc. in our lives.
Then we experience a second level of fear: the fear that we might not be able to hold onto everything we have acquired. We might lose them to death, decay or change.
We fear not having what we need in order to feel secure and happy.
We fear losing these things when we do have them.
We fear others who might take these things from us.
We fear change that might make them disappear.
We fear death, which means losing all this.
Some Types of Fears
There are literally thousands of various manifestations of fear. We can fear just about anything our imagination allows. Let us list just a few, while remembering that they all stem from the basic fear of pain, rejection or extinction of the ego or its various attachments.
Our most common fears are:
3. Death of a loved one
4. Our own death
5. Illness and weakness
6. Physical and / or emotional pain
7. People and animals
A List of Fears
Take a look at the following list to see which stimuli or thoughts might sometimes cause you to feel uncomfortable. Basic fears can be expressed in an infinite number of ways according to each person?s specific mental mechanisms.
Remember that sometimes fears can be subconscious, thus, although our basic emotion is fear, we might react with anger or we might cry. Even when we may not consciously fear, our inner child or subconscious may.
Check on this list for whatever makes you feel uncomfortable and add anything else you discover.
1. Your own death
2. Sudden death by accident
3. Death of a loved one
5. Being paralyzed
6. Growing old
9. Snakes, rats, mice, cockroaches
10. Dogs, cats
11. Failure at work
12. Failure in relationships
13. Failure at school
14. Failure in life
15. Rejection from others
16. Being laughed at by others
19. Financial insecurity
20. Others? aggressiveness
21. The dark
22. The unknown
23. God or his punishment
24. Losing your freedom
25. Losing your self-worth
26. Conflicts with others
27. The sea, heights, fires
28. Cars, planes, boats
29. Elevators, confined spaces
30. Large gatherings of people
31. Travelling by yourself
32. Losing your sanity
33. Being rejected in a love relationship
34. The opposite sex
35. Microbes and dirt
For many of us darkness offers a festive occasion for fear to play with our imagination. A dark, unfamiliar room (or even a familiar one after seeing one of those horror films) becomes quite threatening. Darkness is the unknown and therefore is associated with danger and death. The mind can imagine anything hiding in the darkness. We are ignorant of what lies in darkness and thus identify it with danger and death.
Employing Eft for Fears
The next step is to employ EFT on each and every fear until we are totally free to experience peace, love and happiness in every situation.
Also, when dealing with other issues such as anger, jealousy and resentment, etc. we will often come into contact with our fears, which are the basis of those feelings.
Remember: We use two phrases when doing the set up.
A. We rub on the sore spot on one side (or tap the side of the hand) repeating phrase “A” three times. We are supplying alternative “A” phrases. If none of them suit you, create your own. We should, however always start with the original phrase “Even though I fear ____, I deeply and profoundly love myself.”
Once we feel that to some extent, we can move on to the others, if we choose.
B. Then we repeat phrase “B” three times while rubbing on the sore spot on the other side (or tapping on the side of the other hand). “I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept, realize that it is in my benefit) to be free from this fear of ____”
C. Then we repeat the “C” reminder phrase while tapping on the 12 points. “Fear of ____..”
A.1. Even though I fear ____, I deeply and profoundly love myself.
A.2. Even though until now I have feared ____, I now feel totally safe and secure with that.
A.3. Even though until now I have feared ____, I now feel totally capable of dealing with it.
A.4. Even though until now I have feared ____, I now experience my inner security and faith in my ability to deal with this.
A.5. Even though until now I have feared ____, I now feel peace in relationship to that.
A.6. Even though until now I have feared ____, I now realize that I am totally safe and secure.
A.7. Even though until now I have feared ____, I now experience myself as an eternal soul in the process of evolution.
A.8. Even though until now I have feared ____, I now experience myself as divine energy.
B. I choose (want, deserve, allow myself, accept) to be free from this fear of ____.
C. Reminder Phrase = Fear of ____.
Repeat as many rounds as necessary in order to get totally free from each fear.
This process may take you through other, perhaps deeper or parallel fears, emotions, aspects, physical sensations and even childhood experiences.
Just keep on tapping until you get through and free and happy!
If you feel that you cannot deal with what comes up, then get help from a psychotherapist preferably trained in EFT.
See Gary Craig?s site for practitioners in your area http://www.emofree.com.